Should I give him more time?
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Should I give him more time?
| Thu, 08-31-2006 - 7:05pm |
I met this guy 2 months ago. We hit it off really great, but it came to a screeching halt 2 weeks ago. He says that its going too fast..and I couldn't agree more. But it looks like I am already attached to him. And because I am still very new at dating I really don't know what to do. I know he was married and his wife cheated on him. This was extremely devastating to him and I know he still deals with some of the pain..even though it has been 2 years. I also know he wants to get some things sorted out before he starts dating..which I agree, but is this all just about timing? And if so, should i give him more time? Or should I just let this one go because it just isn't the right time? I am afraid of getting hurt...especially if I start getting more a attached to a man who isn't ready for a relationship...

Sure, give him "more time"...but to me, that means stepping away unless and until he gets his head together, as opposed to continuing to date him. Date other people in the meantime, because he may not resolve his issues any time in the foreseeble future, given that he hasn't done so in two years.
Sheri
"We're moving too fast" is usually ManSpeak for: "I don't want a serious relationship WITH YOU." Next week that same guy could meet another woman and end up engaged within 5 months.
Since you already have feelings for this guy, I think you're asking for trouble if you keep seeing him. It would be different if you could date him casually (like we're SUPPOSED to do in the beginning!) without hoping for "more."
Good luck, whatever you decide.