Should I give him a second chance?
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Should I give him a second chance?
| Mon, 04-05-2004 - 1:23pm |
I had been with my boyfriend almost 3 years until we broke up last week. I found out that he had been keeping some things from me. He had recently (within the last 5 months) developed a friendship with a girl he met at a club. They would talk on the phone often and he admitted hanging out with her and her friends around 7 or 8 times since he's known her. He would invite them to his house or go to their house, they went out clubing once. Thing is that he never told her he had a girlfriend and he never told me about her. I found out via the cell phone bill. I called her and she said they had slept together before but he denied that to me right in front of her. She has her own boyfriend now (since January). Anyway, he admits that he kissed her once while he was drunk and afterwards he felt so horrible because he knew he had let me down, and become one of "those guys". (I've been cheated on before, and he knew that). He wants me to give him a second chance. He said this experience taught him the hard way that there's no one out there better than me, and he wants to rebuild our relationship and make it stronger than it ever was. He's willing to do whatever it takes to make it happen. I love him dearly. We were best friends for a while before getting romantically involved, and I really believed that our relationship was meant to last a lifetime. i told him I needed a couple weeks to be alone and think. I want to make the best decision, but I'm having a difficult time. He's also younger than me, I'm 26 and he's 22. Which is another concern of mine. I think that I was too clingy in the relationship, which may have played a part in the whole thing. My whole world revolved around him, I spent all my free time with him, and I have no friends of my own. (I am in the process of changing that). So bottom line, should I give him the second chance?
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| Mon, 04-05-2004 - 2:02pm |
no. something happened that lead him to seek this woman out. she provided him with something that he felt that he needed OUTSIDE Of the relationship, he never talked to YOU, his girl, about his problem or his need or his anxiety. After three years, he can't turn to you when he's got a problem? And you've been down this road before with other guys that cheat. He's got nothing to offer you until he's done a lot of work on himself. RIght now you are spending a lot of time mourning and rmembering how he used to be and what it used to be like...well, that's over. You're wanting to get back together with someone who lied and betrayed you. That's who he is. And you're of an age where you might want to get married and have a family. This isn't the future father of your children. He's got too many issues for that.
