Should I go?

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Registered: 08-28-2003
Should I go?
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Sun, 06-04-2006 - 8:53am

Hi

Some of you might have read my previous post about a friend of a friend that I met while we were all on weekend away last week. We got on really well, he kissed me a few times but at the end of the weekend didn't ask for my number. He did casually mention a party he is having soon while we were away and asked if I was gonna go. I didn't give him a direct answer just ask what it was for etc. Its been a week since I last saw him and havent heard anything from him (he could have found out my number from friends if he really wanted to). One of my friends wants to go to the party next week and has asked if I will go with her. I really want to see him again and go to the party but I dont want to look too keen turning up if he isn't really interested. What do you think, should I go and if I do how do I behave around him. I dont just want to kiss him again and have nothing come of it?

Thanks x

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-02-2006
In reply to: lisah06
Sun, 06-04-2006 - 12:35pm
This guy sounds like a little bit of a player to me. If not that he certainly knows what he's doing. My guess is he is trying to keep his options open. Either that or hes trying to get you to chase after him. Those 'smooth' types are always confusing because they start to give you affection, but make sure that there are no specifics and no strings attatched in case they change their minds later. I would say, go to the party, say hi to him, but don't linger there with him too long. Enough to say hey, great party, maybe a short witty back and forth. After that, just try to enjoy yourself. If he sees you having fun, it'll make you more appealing looking to him. It might be a good idea however to periodically watch how he behaves around other women. If you see a bunch of other women hes flirting with or ones that appear to be in your situation of testing the waters with him, its probably best not to pursue this one anymore. Atleast dont get yourself too invested in him. If he askes you out, you'll probably have fun. But don't kiss him, or he will get the wrong idea of you.