Should I go on a second date?
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Should I go on a second date?
| Sat, 04-15-2006 - 1:16pm |
I had a first date with a guy, and I'm trying to figure out if I would go on a second date if he asked. He was pretty nice, the conversation went well, and he is attractive. However, I didn't really feel a romantic spark with him. We talked about where we like to travel, what we do for a living, what our hobbies are, where we grew up; I guess just general get-to-know-you stuff. Is it too early to know whether we'd be compatible dating? I have no idea if he even wants a second date because he didn't say he would call me. He said something about me learning to barbecue (he loves doing that), and when I said I didn't like seafood he said "Good, more for me." So it seems like he is thinking about future dates. I just don't know if I'm romantically interested in him, so if he asks me on another date, should I give him one more chance or just say I'm not interested anymore? Thanks!

<< I just don't know if I'm romantically interested in him, so if he asks me on another date, should I give him one more chance or just say I'm not interested anymore? >>
If he does ask you out again, what do you have to lose by going? Nada. So, why not go and it will either validate your current feelings (that you don't have a romantic interest in him ... in which case, you'll know that you don't want to pursue a third date) or you might find that there is something there ... but, if you don't go, you'll never know, right?
I would give him another chance. Usually, first dates are a bit awkward in my opinion.
We are a bit more conscious, a lil stressed. And it's not necessary that a spark be there right from the very first meeting.
So long as you had a good time with him and you were at least *somewhat* attracted to him, I'd go out with him again if he asks.
Sheri
<< I'm very shy, so this is extra hard for me to try and get to know someone new, so I was trying to avoid going through this again if there's no chance at a relationship with him.>>
That's understandable, given the shyness factor. But, how about this for a perspective change: if he does ask you out again, just think of it as any other friend you'd be going out with. Do you get nervous and stay up all night thinking about it when you're going out with some friends? Probably not. Nor do you take hours to get ready when you go out with a friend, right?
So, don't get as worked up (nervous) or try so hard to make an impression. Just be YOU! Be the you that you would be with any other friend. Instead of TRYING to get to know him ... or trying to avoid anything ... don't TRY ... just BE. :)