Should I just assume it's over?
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Should I just assume it's over?
| Sun, 03-09-2008 - 2:54pm |
Hi there! I'm goign to try to keep this as short as possible. I met a guy on-line and we've been dating about 2 1/2 months. It hasn't been easy as he has enough baggage to fill a train! I've been really supportive, always lending an ear, advice and words of support. A couple of weeks ago he had some significant events occur with his family, so the distance I had been feeling I've tried to keep to myself, thinking it may be due to this. However, I'm not stupid either and didn't ignore the fact that it may also be his wanting to get out. Anyway, a week ago, I was taking him to dinner, thought we could use a nice night out together. While waiting at the bar to be seated, I made a comment about thinking I was getting the boot, and he got so mad at me. The rest of the night was ruined no matter how I tried to fix it. The next day was better and he admitted to being a"dickhead" as he put it, but no real apology, but he was espcially helpful. This past Wednesday, he took another comment I said and I got mad, eventhough I tried to explain. He did what he usually does, got mad and said "I'll call youlater." I tried to contact hima few times that day, but he ignored my calls. I heard nothing from him for two days and we never missed a day. Finally, yesterday morning at 1:45 am I get a text "I miss talking to you. Why do you do that? :(" At the more resasonable hour of near noon, I sent a question mark as I didn't understandhim. He sent on back. I clarified I didn't understadn his text. He said, I guess I don't either. I clairifed again that I didn't understadn his orginal text and asked what I did. He sent a text "It's what you say.." Not wanting to have this conversation through texting and being a bit mad at this point that he is constantly getting mad at me, gets spiteful, and doens't reflect on his behavior, I sent" If you would actually like to discuss soemthing, you now my number." I haven't heard from him yet.

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Sounds to me like he is either playing games or
Honey,guys just do this. It is called having his cake and eating it too.
Mainly he could be trying to hold onto you until he is sure about this new flame. Or he just cannot make up his mind. Most likely the former.
My suggestion is get busy with your life. Do some things that you have
Hello Momma215,
I am going through the same thing but I called and told him off. He didn't call for an entire week and after seeing him he gave me some excuse about his divorce that was coming up. We talked every day for a month several times a day and hours. So I haven't call since Tuesday. It has been 2 weeks. There is a post about men pushing back. if I find it I will give it to you. It made me reexamine why I was soooooooo into this guy and if he really was the right person for me and after answering some of the questions, I decided that he was not the one. Out of respect for anything that you guys have developed he should atleast contact you to talk about what is going on, or just say lets be friends.
I am sorry that you are going through this. I haven't had a call since FEB 25, 08.
Why in the world would you put up with all this baggage and drama?
<< It hasn't been easy as he has enough baggage to fill a train! >>
Enough baggage to fill a train = not available for a healthy relationship.
All the rest of it ... is speculation.
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