Should i just assume we're OVER???

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Registered: 08-13-2002
Should i just assume we're OVER???
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Fri, 03-03-2006 - 11:33am

Hi,
i have been dating a guy for almost two months now, it started out pretty strong, him calling me everyday, then it started to slow down, and since he started work we see each other one night a week. We didn't get together last week-end due to a little discussion we had on the phone last Friday. So i didn't hear from him at all. Monday as i got really frustrated with all the silence, i took the initiative to call him, and everything seemed fine, i asked if we were OK? he said yes. So i haven't heard from him since. I text him Tuesday nigh, just a simple "I miss you", and i got no reply, no comment, no response, nothing.

What's going on here? Should i just assume it's over and move on? I think the ball is on his court, he never had a problem calling me before, so what's up with this behaviour now? Should i call, or just sit and wait for him to, or just forget it and assume it's over?

Thanks to all that reply.

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Registered: 11-24-2004
Fri, 03-03-2006 - 12:32pm
What was the little discussion about? If it was a talk about where the r-ship is going, he could have decided he doesn't want to get serious right now and is letting you down easy, by becoming MIA. I would assume it's over and move on. A lot of guys "break off a r-ship or friendship", by simply going AWOL. These guys don't like confrontation. They don't want a long discussion of why or how this r-ship could work. They don't want to hear you get upset or feel guilty. Yes, it is very immature to go about ending things, but there are a lot of 15 year olds in 30-something year old bodies.

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Registered: 03-03-2004
Fri, 03-03-2006 - 12:32pm
I can only tell you my experience with this kind of behavior. I've found that it just gets worse and worse. Since you were pretty strong for quite awhile and it's gradually dwindled down, it sounds like you're growing apart, or it could be that the original have to be together all the time phase has slowed. However, since you don't talk when you have words, as in Friday night, and it seems to be getting less frequent, it's likely that what you first felt isn't going to surmount your differences. In some cases, if you really want this, you could wrack your brain for whatever might have gone wrong, but I've generally found that it just isn't worth it if you have to work that hard. So I guess if I were you, I'd probably just assume it was over, too. You probably could keep it going, but would it be worth it? Good luck.
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Registered: 01-12-2005
Sat, 03-04-2006 - 12:27am
My gut reaction to this is move on.

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