Should I just let it go.....?
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| Mon, 05-01-2006 - 9:57pm |
Hi guys! I haven't written on these msg boards in awhile, so I'll try to keep this short and sweet. =)
I've been working out at my (work) gym for about 4 months now, and there's this guy there that caught my eye a few months ago (let's call him "John"). Whenever we walked by each other we would just smile, but nothing more. Well about a month ago I was working out on one of the machines and he started using the one right next to me. We got to talking and the conversation lasted about 30min...we were so engaged in our conversation that we forgot to ask each other's names. I learned everything about him: which dept he worked for, where he went to school, what he likes to do for fun, even his favorite TV show..and he seemed to ask a lot about me also. I tried to be charming and funny, and he seemed to laugh at my jokes. =) My only mistake was that I didn't ask him his name and we didn't end the conversation correctly...the gym coach interrupted us so that I can sign up for this gym contest, and JOhn even made a joke that if I win I should give him the free t-shirt...so I sensed a little flirting there. A friend of mine was also there working out and she commented how we seemed like we were so into out conversation.
Anyways, before that conversation I used to see JOhn at least every other daym, and since then I've only seen him once a week--so I started to get a complex that I scared him off or something! And everytime we see each other it's just a quick "hello". The last time I saw him I finally asked him his name, but that was it. He didnt attempt to initiate another conversation.
I don't know...it seems like he's not interested but I keep dwelling on that great conversation we had, knowing that nobody would reveal that much about themselves to a complete stranger unless they were interested. Any advice? I am not one to ask a guy out, but I'm just wondering if should continue to send him signals-or send clearer signals--or just give it up.
(This sounds lame but I know that if a person is interested/attracted to you their face lights up and they raise their eyebrows when they see you or are talking to you...and John does that!) =P

I think you are being too hard on yourself. John and you had a great conversation, but John might have a girlfriend, an extremely busy social life, worried about other things and may not be interested in dating at this time.
You're right, if John was interested he should be asking you out or initiating another great conversation, but he isn't. Since you aren't interested in asking him out I think you might want to walk away from this situation.
The only other suggestion I have is to start another conversation and if things are going well ask him out for a cup of coffee if he seems like he is flirting with you. If he gets flustered and makes an excuse about why he can't, my guess is that John has a girlfriend or is gay.