Should I or should I have not called him

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Registered: 08-23-2004
Should I or should I have not called him
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Mon, 12-12-2005 - 3:01pm
breif history: I dated this guy for 6 months we broke up because he was too busy for us we just got back together for 2 months and broke up almost two months ago - I have talked to a few people and he told them that we went to dinner and I never called him again and I dumped him. so I saw him at this funtions and didn't talk to him or acknowlege his exisits and he left 15 mins after I got there. Then I talked to one of my friends who told me they ran into him and all he could talk about was me how i was and if i was coming - well at first it made me feel horriable so I called him and apolized for not speaking to him and left a message - I really wanted to talk to him and let him know that it was not like that and I didn't break up with him - I never called him again but, he didn't either. I am just wondering if he is going to call me back or I should of just left things alone - I know we should be able to talk to each other and things and I am trying to do the friend thing with him....... But I really am not sure if I should of just left it alone........... I just don't understand why he is telling people that and if he really still wants to be with me or whattttt ??? helppp
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Registered: 08-04-2003
Tue, 12-13-2005 - 9:36am

My opinion...

If you keep trying and it seems like everything is working against you, that because it wasn't meant to be. Just leave it alone. You are putting too much effort into beating a dead horse.

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Registered: 06-02-2005
Wed, 12-14-2005 - 7:26am

Hi tdoggman,

It would be helpful if you explained what he meant by "busy". I don't understand the philosophy of breaking up when things are hectic and getting back together again when it's convenient. If he couldn't find the time for a relationship 6 months ago it's unlikely he will find it now, or ever. I think you should walk away from this one.

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Registered: 08-23-2004
Wed, 12-14-2005 - 1:43pm
I really have to agree with you on this one. I don't think it is really busy
I think it is more or less commitment issues and not knowing how to have somebody else in your life and by making yourself distant may help avoid that. Do you think I should even make the effort to be friends or just don't bother
the problem is small town everyone knows everyone and keeps telling people I broke up with him (thankfuly enough people know it was not me) They are people I have working business contacts with and I don't think it is right.... so I thought by trying to be friends with him - he would not have anomisty towards me and stop asking people how I was doing. I do waive when I pass him but, I am going to run into him at places
what do you suggest beside leaving it alone
- I agree with that but, I have to be civil somehow