Should I or Shouldn't I....
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| Mon, 11-22-2004 - 10:55am |
Alright I've been hanging out w/ this guy for like 4 months - we're practically inseperable. I basically already live with him (but I don't) we're not in a "serious relationship" he doesn't even call me his g/f but he did slip recently lol. Yet we act like it!
He has his own house and he wants me to move in w/ him and help him out. We've never got along w/ the opposite sex as much as we get along. It's Awesome! But the thing is that I'm freaked about living w/ another guy before I'm married to him.
Yet I want him to know that I really only want him more than I've wanted any guy I've ever been with and I want to be there for him. I could honestly say what we have is better than any relationship either of us has been in before. So I want him to know that I won't ever leave b/c I won't unless of course he cheats.
I'm not sure if I should really move in with him. We've only known one another for 4 months so that is the only reason besides being freaked about living with another guy that bothers me. Any comments or advice would be appreciated.

People have asked me why I am not living with my SO now that we have been dating for about 3 1/2 years. For me my first reason is that I have younger sister to whom I feel a tremendous obligation, completely of my own choosing. I want to set a good example for them as to how a woman can live a successful and happy life on her own as well as with a guy.
That's not to say that it wouldn't be easier financially if I did move in with SO. From the perspective of my own self interest, I wouldn't want to live in the house he and his family lived in (he's divorced) for so many years, besdies, it's a mess.
I am committed to him even if we're not under that same roof. I love spending time with him. We make dinner together on Sunday afternoons, and just sit around watching football and reading.
We clean up together after dinner, I help him with stuff that I can while I am there. I'm a clean freak so i don't mind. All of that to say that I think we would be as good together in that situation as we are in the rest of life.
There is no doubt that SO loves me, but I need more of a committment as to the certainty of our future before I give up my personal space, especially to go to his. If on the off chance this were to turn out badly, I wouldn't want the added stress of having to find a place to live all of a sudden.
You indicate that you lived with a guy before this. I don't know how that turned out, but if your gutt is telling you it may not be a good idea, then listen. Besides, sometimes absence makes the heart grow fonder as they say.