Should I or shouldn't I????

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-01-2004
Should I or shouldn't I????
7
Fri, 06-18-2004 - 9:52pm
Hello,

I have been seeing this guy off and on for about 4 months now. I am an affectionate person...he sort of is.

Well we are going out on Sunday night to a concert and we will have a walk awhile from the car to the venue.

I really want to hold his hand while we are walking...but not sure if he does.

Should I just take the chance and grab his hand and hope he doesn't mind????

Any advice.

Thanks,

Jokobo

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-01-2004
Fri, 06-18-2004 - 10:06pm
You can, you have nothing to loose. In fact you will know how he feels when he lets you or not. Goodluck.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-05-2004
Sat, 06-19-2004 - 9:29am
Hi jokobo,

I'm confused. Is this a new guy? Or the guy who moved away and came back? Either way, I hope this guy responds better to your advances, if that is what you want. Have you considered intimacy through communication first before physical intimacy? There would be less confusion. A guy you can say anything to or ask any questions without feeling like you have gone too far is much more stimulating than someone you're not sure of.

If you have been seeing him for four months and you are not sure if he wants to hold hands then you may not be talking enough. It seems to me you are looking for a spark of chemistry. Four months? Next! (just my opinion)

Good luck,

lightship

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-01-2004
Sat, 06-19-2004 - 4:43pm
Hi lightship,

It is still the old guy...haven't given up on him yet and honestly I'm not ready to.

We do talk about sexual contact, but he hasn't made a move yet. Not that I am making excuses for him, but he just has had a lot on his mind lately...and I am trying to understand that and be patient.



Guess I should just grab his hand and see how he responds. Right now I think it is a chance I have to take.

As I said we are going to a concert tomorrow night, we will be sitting on the lawn. It's suppose to be cool tomorrow night....so I hope we can get a bit cozy together.

jokobo

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-05-2004
Mon, 06-21-2004 - 7:06am
Hi jokobo,

How did the concert go?

lightship
Avatar for northwestwanderer
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 06-22-2004 - 10:59am
So??? How did it go?

Sheri

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-26-2004
Tue, 06-22-2004 - 11:09am
Personally, I would have a hard time with a guy who won't make a move.
Lilypie Baby Days

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-01-2004
Tue, 06-22-2004 - 11:22am
Hi all.

Thanks for all of your concerns.

We had a good time, even though it was very cold and left the show early.

We did hold hands after the show walking back to the car and he did kiss me good night....so I was happy with the evening.

Thanks again,

jokobo