SHOULD I SAY I LOVE YOU, HE HASNT (dating 8 months months)
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|Wed, 03-27-2013 - 1:46am|
Joe and I started dating 8 months ago. We have known each other, and our families since we were kids. He’s 39, I’m 37. I left 10 year toxic relationship to be with Joe. I’m craz about him. I think I’m in love with him. We are together nearly every night that he does not work (fire department so he does 2 overnights per week). We talk about everything. He listens to me. He cares for me. I can tell because he bought a Christmas tree for his bachelors pad. He baked my parents brownies for the holidays. He rearranged his work schedule to spend my birthday with me, in which he made reservations to an incredible restaurant and held my hand throughout the night except when we were eating ! Lol
He is amazing and I feel amazing when I’m with him. So here is why I’m writing: he is 39 and never been married because he said he wasn’t ready and just didn’t find the right one. I’m a commitment phobe myself, having bounced from one toxic relationship to another. I’m over the drama at this point. I feel settled now. I own my own home. I’m 7 years into my career. I realize now that I dated losers because I didn’t want any distractions. I did not want to find the right guy and commit to him and sacrifice my own desires. I wanted to get things my way after seeing my mother dominated by my father who made all of the decisions as to where to live, not allowing her to work etc. Well I’m over that now. I think I’m in love with him but I cant bring myself to say it. The worst is that he hasn’t said it either but I know he doesn’t want to rush me because he knows of my commitment issues, and lets face it he must have a few himself.
If it ain’ broke don’t fix it right? Should I keep my mouth shit or spew those 3 words? I’d love for him to say it first !?!?!?!??!?!