Should I sleep with him?
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Should I sleep with him?
| Sun, 06-18-2006 - 1:49pm |
I have met this guy and we have been talking about hanging out like going out for a drink or dinner or coffee whatever.. It's just he travels a lot for his job and I have just started a new job. Needless to say we are both quite busy. So one day while we were talking I asked him what he was looking for from me-- i asked this because he says that he is very into sex. So me being a virgin I figured before it went any further I would see what he said. So his response was-- I cant say I want to date you if I dont see how the sex is. Well I was shocked with this response. I like him and have really been thinking about just going for it but if I do that am I doing the wrong thing? Is this guy only after one thing or are guys really like this HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!

First you should ask yourself, is this guy even WORTHY of taking your virginity. Sounds a bit far-fetched, but think about it this way; sleeping with someone is actually a big deal..A friend once said to me it can sometimes dictate how you view your relationships (sexually)for quite a long while after - though im not saying this happens with every person.
This guy seems like a total jerk; the very fact that he has to sleep with someone before he even 'considers' dating them is ridiculous. Think how it will make you feel if you sleep with him, then a few days later he suddenly stops calling you. I'd hate to imagine the kind of thoughts running through my head..for instance, 'was i really that rubbish?' etc. It's not guna give you an amazing ego-boost for future relationships or experiences eh?
All i can say, is if you really do want to go through with it, remember how he might be afterwards and be willing to accept that he might drop you as soon as he's got what he wants. Or maybe not..maybe he's the kind of guy who will take you by surprise and stick around for long enough for it to develop into a relationship - i really hope if you chose to sleep with him, that he's this kind of guy. Just make sure that it's what you want, because you deserve the best, just like everyone else. A guy should make you feel special and shouldn't care about having to wait a while - dating isn't just about the sex, it's about getting to know a person and wanting to spend time with them.
I really hope it works out for the best, just go with your gut instinct x
Someone once told me a guy will consider a relationship if the sex is good, whereas a woman will consider sex if the relationship is good.
Anyways, if this guy thinks sex is so important in a relationship, I would definitely not sleep with him. For one thing (and this is absolutely not an insult to you), but the first time you have sex, it will not be great. For you, it will likely be painful and awkward and you won't know what you're doing. He most likely won't like it, he'll bail and you'll be left broken-hearted knowing you gave away your virginity to an a**hole.
Wait for a gentleman.
In response to your questions, yes, this guy is just after sex with you and no, not all guys are like him. So drop him and find someone else!