Should I take him back?????

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Registered: 06-08-2004
Should I take him back?????
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Sun, 06-13-2004 - 5:03am
Hi again! Thank you so much for the advice I received from ya'll. I'm just here with an update and question. After being dumped by my ex, I decided to meet him for lunch to return his things because I did not feel like going to his house or him coming to mine. Anyway, he started going on about how sorry he was and how stupid he had been i.e. he wants us back together. He seemed to be genuinely sorry but I didn't know what to say. I told him that I did miss him too but I was not about to let myself be hurt like that again. The truth is I missed him dearly but I don't want him to think he can have his way whenever he wants. I'm also having trouble trusting him, I'm having such a hard time believing what he says. The other thing is that it has been 2 days and he hasn't called me since we talked. It bothers me........am I being silly? Our mutual friends want us back together but I'm so confused. Before he asked me back, I knew what I wanted more than ever...to be back together.....now that he has begged me, I'm not so sure, in fact I'm actuallly scared.
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Registered: 06-13-2004
Sun, 06-13-2004 - 6:06am
Hi, I think I know how you feel about him not calling. My guy hasn't called the past 3 days after he acted like a total idiot, at least yours apologised.

According to "The Rules" and for your own self-respect, its probably better if he calls you because he's the one who has to show that he's really sorry and wants you back. I didnt see how long you were together, but a lot of how he reacts now will depend on how long you have known each other and how close the relationship has been i guess. I hope for your sake that he gets his act together and at least tries to talk about things with you. Communication is the most important thing of all. If he cant do that, and really make some commitment in a major way, its not worth talking about. What does your heart say? What does your head say? If you have doubts about things he has done in the past, he would have to do a lot of talking to fix things up before you could get back together I think.

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Registered: 06-13-2004
Sun, 06-13-2004 - 11:12pm
I think that he has told you what he wants--you seemed unsure when he spoke with you so he MIGHT be giving you room to think and expecting you to call when you come to a decision. I would (hopefully you have already done this) think about what you want and then call and splat it out to him. Then the ball is in his court. I think he is trying to give you time ti think--but don't take too much time. Let him know what is up.
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Registered: 05-26-2004
Wed, 06-16-2004 - 2:53pm
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