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| Wed, 03-01-2006 - 11:41pm |
Hi everyone & anyone willing to read...
Well I just need advice or thoughts on this situation. Well I met this guy like about a month and a half ago. We havent gone out at all yeah I have been waiting for him to ask me out and he finally did. We have great conversations I mean we can talk about anything which is a A++++ in my book. But last night he started asking me about my sexuality. I dont have a problem talking about it but when its someone such as the male gender talking about I begin to start thinking "ALL RIGHT HES THINKING LETS MEET HAVE SEX AND CALL IT A NIGHT" But then after being on the phone for about an hour he starts telling me he would like to kiss me? And would like to know if I let him which I thought was kind of cute but i rather he suprise me than tell me. Then we talked about what he liked to do in the bedroom and then he told me if I had a fantasy. I honestly said not at the moment cause my past partners havent been so bold about telling me this. Let me remind you he started the whole sex talk so what is a girl to do..............
So my question is if he was so explicit as to tell me what he likes and his fantasies does this mean hes just looking out to get booty the first time we go out? Should I even bother meeting him for drinks?.......Any advice

blossomredrose...
Very simple answer from PG:
Meet him for drinks, but refuse to return to his house or apartment! No matter how many times he brings the subject up...you are under no obligation to exchange S-E-X for "a little liquid refreshment!"
If I were in your shoes, I'm not sure I'd be comfortable with all the 'sex fantasizing over the telephone'----but you know what types of conversation you're capable of handling better than me?
Pianoguy
In my experience, guys who want to talk about sexual acts before you date or in the early stages of dating want to be sexual with you and are not thinking about dating you.
I personally find such discussion by a guy to be extremely disrespectful, and I will not discuss the topic. (And most times, I am no longer willing to go out on a date with the guy.) You don't have to discuss it just because he brings it up. You can change the topic or tell him directly you don't feel comfortable talking about it.
OK, I want to make sure that I understood - he's talking about sex before you've even gone on your first date (he's asked but you haven't gone yet) and asking about your fantasies and telling you his? Yup, most likely looking for a booty call and/or a NSA (no strings attached) sexual relationship. Not definitely but most likely.
You can go ahead and meet him, but be prepared for him to ask you to his home or to go to yours to hook up. If you're willing to have casual sex on the first date, go for it. If you're looking for something more, tell him that you're not comfortable discussing sex this early in a relationship and do NOT not go home with him after your date. If he's sincere in looking for a relationship, he'll back off and respect your decision. If all he wants is sex, I bet you'll see him either continue the pressure until he gets it or he'll drop off the face of the earth.