Should I talk to him or not?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-24-2005
Should I talk to him or not?
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Wed, 11-21-2007 - 4:40am

This is about 2 guys and not one! Ok first one..I met this guy on NYE and we ended up kissing the same night. Yes he is cute to look but I ended up kissing him 1. Becx I was a little high (usually I never drink that much) 2. I am just recently out of my marriage 3. I was having fun on my NYE.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-10-2007
Wed, 11-21-2007 - 12:16pm

Are you finding it hard to tell how you feel because you are semi-involved with both of them - plus the ex?

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Registered: 03-24-2005
Wed, 11-21-2007 - 10:34pm
Thanks for clearing this up :) I might talk to him over this long weekend. but I will first wait for one
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-10-2007
Thu, 11-22-2007 - 11:29am

Who do you feel used you the first guy from NYE or the other?


From what I got from your original post you wanted to know whether or not to tell the second guy (the one who helped you move) that you wanted to break things off - I am not getting that from your second post.

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Registered: 04-02-2007
Fri, 11-23-2007 - 10:39am

I think you need to take some time for yourself without being with anyone right now. Maybe get some counseling to work through your divorce and other issues, work on your self esteem.

How do you think he used you.... By kissing you? Did you kiss him back? Did he twist your arm for the kiss? YOU are responsible for your actions, if he kissed you and you kissed him back, then that is not using you, you went along with it...

Hoping for magic when you are a child is great, but that doesn't happen when you grow up. If you gave him the feeling that you didn't want anything to do with him, then he shouldn't call you. If you want to see him, then you need to put forth the effort and let him know you are interested.

Why would you think it is wrong to get some kisses? What is so wrong about enjoying things as they come, just because you share some kisses with someone doesn't mean anything but you kissed. Not every relationship has to turn into something serious.

Before making a decision about either guy, I think you need to get some self help books, do some reading, learn about yourself and what you want. Good luck