Should I trust him?
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Should I trust him?
| Tue, 04-27-2004 - 7:43pm |
I have been dating my boyfriend for 3 years now. When we first started dating he was the party type always wanting to go out, me on the other had was more laid back. At first we just started dating and we didn't hang out as much as we do now and were not nearly as serious as we are now. But then he got into a little trouble with drugs. I wanted nothing to do with it but he told me we will get through it and it will be over. He told me that I have changed him for the better and without me who knows what trouble he would be in now.
Well, I found out that he lied to me and that he still continued to do it behind my back. He cried to me about how much he loved me and that he was addicted and that he wanted my help to stop. Months passed and it stopped for a while but, all of his friends did it, so once again he did it behind my back a couple times. I found out confronted him and he told me the truth about it. Well, obviously I am in a situtation where I can't trust him right now and that he has to gain back my trust. We want to spend our life together and he wants to move in together so that we can be together more and solve the trust problem. But my concern is, is how am I going to trust him again? How does someone lie to you if they truely love you?
Trust has caused us to continuously argue, because I can't trust him with his friends but I dont want to stop him from seeing them. He has promised me to get back on the right track, go back to school and start over but, how can I trust him again? HELP!!
Well, I found out that he lied to me and that he still continued to do it behind my back. He cried to me about how much he loved me and that he was addicted and that he wanted my help to stop. Months passed and it stopped for a while but, all of his friends did it, so once again he did it behind my back a couple times. I found out confronted him and he told me the truth about it. Well, obviously I am in a situtation where I can't trust him right now and that he has to gain back my trust. We want to spend our life together and he wants to move in together so that we can be together more and solve the trust problem. But my concern is, is how am I going to trust him again? How does someone lie to you if they truely love you?
Trust has caused us to continuously argue, because I can't trust him with his friends but I dont want to stop him from seeing them. He has promised me to get back on the right track, go back to school and start over but, how can I trust him again? HELP!!

He's an addict and this is his MO...this is how it's been and how it's going to be. You've commited three years to this guy...how many more chances does he need for you to figure out that he is or isn't a keeper?? He's had this chances to prove himself to you IMHO. I wouldn't trust him...until I saw him take some drastic lifestyle changes like get new friends.