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should i wait
| Sat, 10-02-2004 - 7:40pm |
Been dating this guy for 14 months. We have great chemistry both emotionally, physically & spiritually. We both will admit to that. We both are professionals, college educated, have no kids & share many of the same likes & dislikes. We live 45-60 minutes apart & see each other at least 2 times a month for weekend visits. He says we are moving toward being in a serious, committed relationship but the believes things should have a natural progression & does not want to force anything. This is why he does not want to say right now that he wants it to be today for us to be in a committed relationship. He asks me questions like, "What kind of house do I want later in life?", "What do I think about people saying women totally changing after married?" I often wonder where these life/future questions come from. He buys me gifts, calls and/or sends emails daily, very polite, open doors for me, pays when we go to restaurants (even though I volunteer to pay sometimes). I have met his sister, dad & stepmom (met dad & stepmom by accident...they happen to pop in town while we were preparing to go out to see a play). I have not met his mom who lives five-six hours away. He has not invited me to meet his mother as of yet. I know that is an important step. I don't know why I am focused on getting the title of "girlfriend" but I am. I feel like it has been 14 months already. He is a very slow decision maker about important decision; for example, buying a car, investing, and so forth. Any one who has ideas, suggestions, comments, I welcome all of them. I don't want to be a fool by waiting for someone who will never commit to a serious relationship. On the other hand, he is showing signs that he is leaning that way to a committed relationship.

Sheri
Thanks for your help!
Sheri