Should I wait for him?

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Registered: 10-27-2004
Should I wait for him?
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Wed, 10-27-2004 - 12:49pm
I was dating my boyfrined for almost 2 years. We were very serious, I picked out my engaement ring and were always talking about our future together. Just last week I called him on the phone and was talking about weekend plans. Out of no where he said I want to break up. I am so confused, I have no idea where this came from, we had a perfect relationship. I asked for a reason and he told me he didnt have one, he told me he still loves me but just knows that we will never be together again. I don't know what to do. I feel like we will still get back toegether but he keeps saying that we won't. What should I do?
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Registered: 04-23-2003
Wed, 10-27-2004 - 3:26pm
You should listen to what he's saying. You say you had the perfect relationship and this break up is out of the blue, but what you need to realize is that that is only your perspective. It is doubtless not out of the blue for him, and obviously it wasn't the perfect relationship from his perspective. Actually he should be applauded for stopping this before he walked you down the aisle. Many people get married, despite having doubts deep down, only to end up miserable and/or divorced down the line. I know this is painful for you. But a relationship can't be "perfect" (ie, the right one for you) unless that is MUTUALLY felt. And being compatible in that way takes more than just loving or caring for the other person. You are no doubt a wonderful woman with many things to offer, and he realizes that and loves you as a person. However, for whatever reason the relationship wasn't right for him. You need to let him go. Because if it wasn't right for him, then it can't be right for you either. The relationship that's right for you is one where your partner has no doubts about you being his partner for life. The longer you hang on, the longer you will hurt. Good luck.
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Registered: 02-04-2004
Wed, 10-27-2004 - 6:13pm
i think you should respect his decision and give him some space

*hugs*