Should I write him off now?

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Registered: 09-03-2004
Should I write him off now?
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Thu, 11-25-2004 - 9:38pm
Hi, I haven't been on here in a while, I have been working at a department store for a couple of months. Anyway here is my dilemma (which may not be after Friday): This past Monday I was on my way to take care of some personal business. I got to a bus stop and was waiting there for quite some time when I turn around to see the most GORGEOUS man. He motioned for me to come over, which I did. He asked me for my name and phone number. I said "Now you've got my name and phone number, but I don't know who you are." So he told me who he was, and I asked him for his phone number, he asked me where I was headed and I told him. He offered me a ride, to which I declined (I never accept a ride from a man), I told him I was fine. He told me he was a fireman, I told him I was a sales associate. He asked me when could he call me, and i told him to call me later that night, but jokingly I said he wouldn't call me. He said he would never do that. Afterwards we said our goodbyes and went our separate ways. After I got to where I needed to be, a good 45 minutes went passed and my cell phone was buzzing (I had it on vibrate). When I flipped it open, it was him! I was shocked b/c a lot of guys I meet will tell me they will call and 10 times out of 10 won't. So I called him back as soon as I got out of the office where I was at but he had to hurry off to work, so I told him to give me a call before I had to go to work Tuesday morning. When he didn't call me Tuesday morning I left him a message, then one more on my break that same day. Now here is the dilemma I was referring to in the beginning...should I write him off because it is Thursday and I have not talked to him since we spoke the first time on Monday, should I give him the benefit of a doubt b/c he has such a crazy schedule, or should I call him tomorrow one more time, then write him off for good if I get his voice mail again? I know he is a fireman, but can a fireman be that busy that he can't pick up a phone to talk to someone he found quite attractive? (BTW, I read parts of "He's Just Not That Into You" and there is a lot of truth to why men do the asinine things that they do.)
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 11-25-2004 - 10:12pm

You've called him twice...that's enough. He could be out of town for the holiday, which might explain why he's not calling but not why he didn't call when he said he was going to. In any event, 2 calls is one more than enough! The ball is in his court.

And PLEASE tell us you didn't give a total stranger your last name or a phone number that could be looked up!

Sheri

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Registered: 09-03-2004
Fri, 11-26-2004 - 12:28am
First of all, I am not that stupid that I would give anyone my last name, not until I have gotten to know him better.....that's if it goes past the first date, which in my case, rarely does. And second, my cell phone is unlisted, he already has it. As I said in my post, he called 45 minutes after meeting me. Now a lot of my friends, male and female, say that him calling me back that fast shows that he is interested in me. That is not my worry so much as him not calling me back the next day. But I feel that even if you are out of town, there is nothing wrong with picking up a phone to say hi, even if it is for 5 seconds. All I am saying is I am tired of being roped into these situations only to have the outcome coming out the same. That is why I am saying if I haven't heard from him, or any guy for that matter, for two days or two months, I am thinking at this point I am just another in a series of girls' phone numbers. But I am going to stay positive and hope that he returns my calls, but in the meantime, my fantasies are enough to keep me warm this holiday season.
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Registered: 06-20-2004
Fri, 11-26-2004 - 9:10am

STOP CALLING HIM!!!!

Let him call you or else you will be doing all the chasing.

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Registered: 07-29-2003
Fri, 11-26-2004 - 3:43pm
You should wait for him to call you. If he doesn't then that's his problem and you should not call him because obviously he doesn't want to talk to you, or something happened. If he wants to talk to you he will call.