Should we just breakup??

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Registered: 09-09-2003
Should we just breakup??
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Sun, 04-01-2007 - 8:55pm
I met him online. He was looking for hangout female buddy. We liked each other so much and became intimate 2 weeks after. 6 weeks into it, I have a talk with him about where this whole thing is going and decided to break up since he just wanted a FWB which I did not want. 2 weeks later he comes back crying and asking forgivenance and promised he would do anything to make it work for both of us if I give him a chance so I did. We have been together for 4 months now and recently (2 weeks) ago I felt he is a bit distant and not supportive. I told him that I need more romance in the relationship and that I dont feel he is supportive enough. Friday night we went out to have dinner and watch a game... there was no trace of romance or intimacy. I felt like he is not interested in me anymore and was really sad and miserable all the evening. so we came back to my place and he stayed over but it was awkward kuz I did not want to talk to him. He left the next day on a hiking trip and came back Sunday and did not call me so I called to check he is ok and he picked up the phone and said he is but he did not feel like calling me... I was shocked since I did not expect him to say it bluntly just 2 weeks after a honeymoon-like vacation! He said he does not see our relationship going anywhere. I asked him if he wants to break-up he said he does not know. I said if you dont know then I think I can make the call...he said lets sleep on it tonite and then talk about it tomorrow. He will call me tomorrow. I prefer to meet him in person. I dont think I should be with him and eventhough I had strong feelings for him I m now too confused he threw in the towel too quickly and I dont know whether I want to be with such a guy...
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Registered: 05-31-2005
Sun, 04-01-2007 - 9:15pm

I hate to say it but I think it's blatantly clear. You are getting all you can get from this guy. Why leave it in his court? I think the relationship has run its course. Honestly, I think it ran it's course about 4 months ago. But you tried. At least you know you did.


You may not get what you want by seeing him in person, but at least take control of your own destiny and decide what you want. I think you already have.


Let us know how it works out.

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Registered: 06-08-2006
Sun, 04-01-2007 - 10:03pm

I agree with Kerry, you gave it a shot and he does not seem to know what he wants. Let him go so he can figure it out, no sense wasting anymore of your time while he gets it together.

YG

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Registered: 11-30-2006
Mon, 04-02-2007 - 12:12pm
Well, if he says he doesn't feel this is going anywhere, why are you asking him if he wants to break up? You need to break it off. Do not grovel to this guy for another shot at this relationship. He is tellingyou that he doesn't see long term potentialhere, but he'll take the sex from you until you get tired of being used. A person knows in his/her gut if this will go anywhere. I once talked to someone who knew years before their breakup that he never intended on being with the woman, but nothing better came along, so he stayed with her until it was too unbearable for her. You can find someone who feels the same as you. I know it hurts but it is usually very self destructive to hang around a guy who doesn't care about you.