Should we stay exclusive?
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Should we stay exclusive?
| Sun, 06-20-2004 - 6:08am |
Hi, all. I'm dating this guy for about three weeks now. He is real nice to me. I enjoy being with him. But last night he told me he was not in love with me yet and I feel the same wway. He said he was in love with his ex after six month dating and it was a long-distance relationship. I felt kinda sad. Due the diverging interests we have in music, art, and literature and almost everything else, I had doubts on our compatibility and suggested not being exclusive. But he insisted and convinced me that being exclusive was so much better. I indeed feel worried and am not willing to get emotionally attached when he is not. I really want to concentrate on my school and gain advancement in my career. So I think I should try not to stay exclusive and let him know. What do you think? Thanks a lot
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| Sun, 06-20-2004 - 11:23am |
If he still has feelings for his ex--why exactly does he want to be exclusive? That makes no sense to me. I wouldn't do it--you are going to end up getting attached to him and he could very well end up back with his ex (maybe). I would just tell him until you are both on the same level with the feelings--no way should it be exclusive. This could be his "rebound" relationship, especially since he admittied not being over someone else. Be very cautious!
| Sun, 06-20-2004 - 11:25am |
Yeah, being exclusive is "so much better"...for HIM. Your first instincts are correct. Date other guys but concentrate on your studies first.
| Sun, 06-20-2004 - 4:50pm |
But when I told him if he wanted to go back to his ex, he says absolutely not and something like "Even if you and she are standing in front of me right now, I'll still choose to be with you." His ex was cheating on him a year ago and they broke up after that. He has not been dating for a whole year. I felt kinda worried because he says in his definition, love is a deep spiritual bond but I don't see this kind of bond developing between us. We seem to have barriers in our communication.
