Showing up unannounced? Y or N

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Registered: 05-29-2004
Showing up unannounced? Y or N
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Mon, 08-02-2004 - 3:10am
Im sitting her miserable after last nite. I basically ran into my xbf at a club. I just met this new guy and we both went to a local club bar type. I seen my x and he was out there on the dance floor dancing having a great time. Feelings re-surfaced big time since he dumped me in march of this year. Im still not over him as you can see. He's tall and built and very handsome and was just abosulutely the best overall man. He has a great career and is very sucessful. Independent and all the other good stuff. Plus an extremely sexual giving, satisfying lover. MY BEST EVER! I thought i was over him untill last nite. The guy i was with is a navy man, and im not so sure of him yet. I tried to not look at the x, but i couldnt help it at times. You just cant miss him! I assume he was alone, since he practically was dancing with almost all the women. I was depressed and left in an hour with the man i was with. Feeling came back HARD!!!!!!

Im sitting here debating if i should call him or show up at his place? I know he'll just ignore my phone call. The only way to talk to him is face to face. He never gave me closure. I just miss him so bad, and i want things to work out between us again =(

He acts like i no longer exist and could care less if i died =(

I dont see how a man can just stop loving someone so fast and easy, like i meant nothing to him. He got over me that quick

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 08-02-2004 - 10:31am
fitnessgal805...

At the risk of picking on you...Pianoguy thinks you're acting like A BABY! You want something that he doesn't...otherwise...the 2 of you would still be together! To him YOU DON'T EXIST...and this is something you DON'T want to accept!

What a lot of women who post here don't seem to understand about men is this...All of us WON'T give you "closure!" Many want to end a relationship quickly without any fanfare or explanation. While this behavior might not be fair, it reinforces the difference between the sexes.

"The male doesn't want to explain---because the female will get mad and complain!"

So consider your current situation, fitnessgal. You will NEVER accept any other man on this planet as long as you continue to fantasize about the EX! If you need to take a break from dating...DO IT! You might heal a little better without another male distracting you?

But...if you just "show up" at the EX's doorstep unannounced...you're putting him in a very awkward position. Unless...unless the EX decides to call a police officer and have you escorted out!

Please let this go...and move forward...okay?

Pianoguy

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Registered: 12-23-2003
Mon, 08-02-2004 - 5:33pm

No hon.

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