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shy guy?
| Wed, 09-07-2005 - 9:03pm |
Dave and I have been friends for a few years. Our friend Mike has always tried to get us together. We are total opposites but have always clicked. Dave has tatoos all over his body (nothing wrong with that, just different) but he is a real sweet guy. Recently my friends and his friends have commented to us on separate occassions they think we would be great together. My one friend mentioned how she sees us connect. She says he is not like that with any of the other girls we hang out with.
We did hook up one time last year but neither of us told anyone or even mentioned it to each other afterwards. I think neither of us knew what the other was thinking!
Dave's friend told me he has no self-confidence when it comes to girls. He doesn't know what girl would want to be with a guy who is all tattoed.
When his friends say something about me he just kind of smiles and laughs it off. If he was interested, wouldn't he say something to them?
He'll do sweet things like offer to get my drink or ask me if I'd like his jacket because I'm cold.
I really don't know if he is interested or just being a friend. His friend told if I'm interested I should make the first move because Dave has "no game."
I have a fear of rejection, especially a fear of rejection from a friend.
How can I find out if he is truly interested? I guess I could find out from one of his friends but that seems so junior highish.
I think I am starting to like him and would like to see where it may go....what do I do?
We did hook up one time last year but neither of us told anyone or even mentioned it to each other afterwards. I think neither of us knew what the other was thinking!
Dave's friend told me he has no self-confidence when it comes to girls. He doesn't know what girl would want to be with a guy who is all tattoed.
When his friends say something about me he just kind of smiles and laughs it off. If he was interested, wouldn't he say something to them?
He'll do sweet things like offer to get my drink or ask me if I'd like his jacket because I'm cold.
I really don't know if he is interested or just being a friend. His friend told if I'm interested I should make the first move because Dave has "no game."
I have a fear of rejection, especially a fear of rejection from a friend.
How can I find out if he is truly interested? I guess I could find out from one of his friends but that seems so junior highish.
I think I am starting to like him and would like to see where it may go....what do I do?
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| Thu, 09-08-2005 - 12:28am |
Make the first move. As your friend says Dave has no game. You don't have to pour your heart out to him about every feeling you've ever felt for him, but let him know in smaller ways. A touch on his arm, inviting him out for a cozy dinner, complementing him and telling him how much you two "click". If you did pour your heart out to him, you may scare the poor shy guy. The more time you spend with him, the easier it will be to find subtle ways to let him know you like him.
| Thu, 09-08-2005 - 1:15pm |
I agree with gingersnapelle. Also, try to increase the amount of time you spend with him. Just you and him. See how he reacts. Do you see him liking that. Perhaps, he doesn't feel too confidant that you would really like him, and is afraid of rejection from you too. So make him feel special in little ways, but don't overdo it. Just little things. Make him feel nice. Hopefully, he should get comfortable with you and would tell you how he feels about you once he starts feeling valued that way. Goodluck.

