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| Thu, 10-28-2004 - 5:17pm |
How can I get a guy who is quiet, reserved, and shy to come out and openly express his feelings and opinions? I am not a very good converstionalist myself but am learning to open up more and be less uptight. I tried joking around but sometimes it seems like he doesn't get my jokes. He seems too uptight and stiff or is it just nervousness or is he trying to evaluate me? What's a good approach that will not offend him and scare him? It is somewhat frustrating being in the dark alot of the times. Thanks.

This guy is acting precisely like I do when I fall for someone. AKA the shy nerdy type who never gets too much experience because of the 'not so into you' BS and its path of least resistence that women like so much (blame the problem on someone else).
The best shot you have is to try and hang out with this guy more often so that you both become comfortable around each other. Go out for coffee etc, light and easy places to talk.
You will probably see one of two things happening, 1) he will start showing interest and finding it easier to come around and talk to you - this includes just finding excuses to be around you.
or 2) He will be VERY busy - nothing lost on both sides.
I would vote for the first, because your situation sounds like something Ive been through 5-6 times.
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