The Shy Sickness
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The Shy Sickness
| Tue, 03-16-2004 - 1:54pm |
I've been dating this guy for about 2 months and everything is going great. He is so cute and is everything i could ever want. He holds me and kisses me and i feel safe and protected when i'm with him. There is only one little...actually major problem. I get very nervous when i'm around him. We could be lying in bed and he'll start touching my leg and i'll move in order for him to stop...the only reason is i don't want him to stop. I have no idea why i'm doing this but it always happens when i'm around him. I've always been really shy but i figured when i finally got with someone i really liked this crazy dilemma would stop...but its not! Is there anything i can do so i won't feel so nervous to have my boyfriend touch me or even kiss me???
Thank You Very Much
-shayna bratcher

Have you considered the possibility that YOU AREN'T READY TO GO ALL THE WAY? And speaking from a man's point of view...that's not a flaw! We'd rather know that you're reluctant about intimacy before we try to "make a move on you!"
Now if you're truly unsure about your feelings...that's okay? But if you're wishy-washy in bed (or anywhere else)...you'll only succeed in ticking off your b/f...and he'll probably get so frustrated that he'll dump you!
Shy doesn't cut it. EXPRESS YOURSELF...GIVE YOUR B/F A CLUE BY GIVING HIM THE LIMITS (if there are any)...and take things from there.
Pianoguy
Now, to your issue. I think if you are still that uncomfortable with someone, but you're sleeping with him, it means you got into an intimate relationship you weren't ready for. It could also mean he is not right for you. It doesn't mean you are "sick."
Look honestly at the man and your feelings for him. It's never to late to stop, slow down and take the relationship in a different direction that is more comfortable for you.
On the other hand, if you get a "creepy" feeling when he is just kissing you, that's not a good sign, at all. That means he DEFINITELY isn't for you.