Single moms, please help a good guy !!!

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Registered: 04-29-2004
Single moms, please help a good guy !!!
Tue, 10-05-2004 - 10:44am
I have completely fallen for a single mom who continually warns me she has "(emotional)baggage". We have emailed alot but have only been on 3 dates. Saturday we had a great time but she had to go home a little early for the babysitter - but not before she held my hand on the walk to the car and gave me a goodnight hug and kiss (I'm floating). 5 min after she left, she called me on the phone and asked if we could go to lunch tomorrow. I didn't have any big plans, so sure. At this point, I'm flattered and scared. Scared because we both are divorced and agreed that a friendship is the basis for a lasting realtionship, so I'm afraid she's gonna blame the hug and kiss on the wine. She didn't, we had a nice lunch, but a kiss goodbye didn't feel right for either of us. Yesterday, we emailed in the morning and she told me she was going home sick. I floundered awhile, then sent flowers with nothing more than "Get well" and my name on the note. Today I get the email I was fearing:

As you know, I have a lot on my plate right now and my son is the most important person in my life. There are things that I just need to do, and I hope you can be patient with me. I am not in a place in my life that I want to committ to anyone. I am fearful, yet cautious at the same time.

I have not had peace in my life in so long, and I can hardly wait for the day that I do. I don't want you to wait around on me because I need time to do the things that I need to do. What I need more than anything is a friend. I don't want to put any expectations on you or vice versa. If I am saying way too much than I am sorry, but I feel that if I tell you from the beginning where I am than you can't say that I never told you. I hope you understand where I am coming from.

I'm head over heels for her, what can I possibly tell her that won't scare her ?

Thanks so much.