Sleeping Over
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Sleeping Over
| Thu, 01-05-2006 - 3:15pm |
I've been dating this guy for about 3 months and sleeping with him for about 1 month. The weird thing is that he doesn't sleep over, and if I'm at his house after awhile, he gets dressed, which I take as a sign to leave. I don't understand what is going on. He makes plans to have dates and calls me and we talk about things not related to sex and neither one of us are seeing other people. I think I need to ask him what this is about, but it is just weird. I could understand if he is over and he needs to get back to a dog, but he doesn't have one. I've been with other guys who I want to stay and almost beg to stay who do have a dog, but I don't beg him, but I do really like him and have fun with him. This is definitely not a sex thing, since we do have dates. I'm just confused. Any ideas?

Well, just because you have dates and sex doesn't mean he wants more than fun, sex, excitement, companionship IN THE MOMENT...and then when he's done with the date - he's done.
I mean, dating is the prelude to a relationship, and the willingness to have sex doesn't indicate the desire for that either.
I suspect if you talked to him about it nonaccusatorily - you'd find he doesn't want a relationship. HE doesn't wnat to consider your needs an feelings and so forth equally with his own when making decisions and taking actions in his life.
He thinks you're fun, sexy, attractive, sexually exciting, and interesting and entertaining - and as far as timeframes go - he wants about 6 hours of that non-stop a few times a week. But that's it.
Erin
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Maybe he has a bed wetting problem!
Anyway, I agree with the others. Sleepovers tend to bridge the gap between casual and committed. Plus sleepovers turn into spending the next day together. If he's a guy who likes his space, has a million hobbies, goes to the gym, etc... He probably wants to keep his Sundays to himself. Sooo that would mean kicking you out on Sat night.