So confused

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Registered: 06-03-2006
So confused
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Sat, 06-03-2006 - 7:43pm
Ok so their is this guy that i know through some friends of mine and recently I noticed him looking at me alot. I later heard through a friend that he liked me so i decided to send him an email just to talk. Well a month later we are still talking(through email) and he has admitted that he really likes me, we have now been on 2 dates and are going on a 3rd one this week. The problem is that I am not physically attracted to him. He is really heavy and it just bothers me. But he has such a great personality and I know that if i was to be with him he would take good care of me. I dont know what to do. Plus i feel pressured from friends to be with him. And i feel like I am pressuring myself because i have never been in a relationship before. I dont know what to do. I feel horrible because he is such a great guy. I told him i liked him as well, because when we talk online i do. But when we go out i have this huge urge to run away and leave the country. Their is just no physical attraction to him, and I dont think i feel a spark. What should I do?
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Registered: 06-03-2006
In reply to: cotton_bear
Sat, 06-03-2006 - 8:08pm
Sounds like he would be a great friend. I also am in the same situation, but we both talked about it and we are great friends a year later. You can never go wrong with having too many friends.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: cotton_bear
Sun, 06-04-2006 - 1:08pm

cotton_bear...

PG thinks you've got to HONESTLY ask yourself which is more important:

a. The man's physical appearance?
OR
b. The qualities he has (aside from the physical) that are appealing to you?

What your friends think DOESN'T MEAN DIDDLY-SQUAT!

Otherwise, they'd be dating him and you wouldn't have that option?

Pianoguy