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so confused...
| Wed, 08-03-2005 - 1:42pm |
let me try and explain my story the best i can and see if you can help me...
it all starts 2 years ago. i met my first real boyfriend. his name is zach. in the beginning everything was great. we had so much in common. after about a year into our relationship, he changed schools and was dorming on campus while i was commuting. that is when i noticed his jealous side. i would cry almost 3 times a week and was ready to get rid of him. my friends and family started to change their opinion about him too. he was changing at this new college and it was so hard for us to see eachother. so after dating zach for a year and a half, i broke up with him. he didnt take it well and it was hard for him to move on.
while the whole breaking up process was going on, i met jeremy. he is one of the most amazing people ever. he has a great head on his shoulders and he was there helping me get over zach. about a month later, we started going out. jeremy and i have been dating almost 6 months now. and this is where everything gets confusing.
i talked to my ex about 3 weeks ago, just to see how eachother was doing and he told me "you are my dreamgirl. im sorry for everything. i dont expect you to say anything. but i know that you are the girl i want to be with. i just wanted you to know that i still love you. and i know you feel it too.. how can you not feel it. i havent seen you in like 7 months but the feelings are still there. no one compares to you. i just wanted you to know that." that is what he told me. i didnt know what to say cause it really makes me think about what i want. do i want to forget about zach and stay with jeremy or break up with jeremy and date zach? i dont know. the difference between zach and jeremy is that... zach and i have a more emotional connection. we can tell what the other person is feeling. we have cried together before. we were best friends that supported eachother thru everything. when it comes to me and jeremy, we are more physically attracted to eachother. the thing is, is that me and jer have been going out for 6 months and he has never told me im beautiful and he hasnt even told me hes loved me. also when we hang out, we dont kiss until there is a "goodnight kiss" i want more than that, i want to feel like im a girlfriend and not just a friend. it sucks. when i was with zach, i was told that im pretty every single day and that he loved me atleast 3 times a day.
i dont know what to do. i still love my ex.. i mean deep down i care so much for him. i dont think i want to tell him cause i dont want to fall back into his jealousy. school is going to start up again in aug. and that means i wont get to see him that much.
what should i do?
it all starts 2 years ago. i met my first real boyfriend. his name is zach. in the beginning everything was great. we had so much in common. after about a year into our relationship, he changed schools and was dorming on campus while i was commuting. that is when i noticed his jealous side. i would cry almost 3 times a week and was ready to get rid of him. my friends and family started to change their opinion about him too. he was changing at this new college and it was so hard for us to see eachother. so after dating zach for a year and a half, i broke up with him. he didnt take it well and it was hard for him to move on.
while the whole breaking up process was going on, i met jeremy. he is one of the most amazing people ever. he has a great head on his shoulders and he was there helping me get over zach. about a month later, we started going out. jeremy and i have been dating almost 6 months now. and this is where everything gets confusing.
i talked to my ex about 3 weeks ago, just to see how eachother was doing and he told me "you are my dreamgirl. im sorry for everything. i dont expect you to say anything. but i know that you are the girl i want to be with. i just wanted you to know that i still love you. and i know you feel it too.. how can you not feel it. i havent seen you in like 7 months but the feelings are still there. no one compares to you. i just wanted you to know that." that is what he told me. i didnt know what to say cause it really makes me think about what i want. do i want to forget about zach and stay with jeremy or break up with jeremy and date zach? i dont know. the difference between zach and jeremy is that... zach and i have a more emotional connection. we can tell what the other person is feeling. we have cried together before. we were best friends that supported eachother thru everything. when it comes to me and jeremy, we are more physically attracted to eachother. the thing is, is that me and jer have been going out for 6 months and he has never told me im beautiful and he hasnt even told me hes loved me. also when we hang out, we dont kiss until there is a "goodnight kiss" i want more than that, i want to feel like im a girlfriend and not just a friend. it sucks. when i was with zach, i was told that im pretty every single day and that he loved me atleast 3 times a day.
i dont know what to do. i still love my ex.. i mean deep down i care so much for him. i dont think i want to tell him cause i dont want to fall back into his jealousy. school is going to start up again in aug. and that means i wont get to see him that much.
what should i do?

sunnysandals...
Pianoguy wants to know which is more important to you: EMOTIONAL COMPATIBILITY or SEXUAL ATTRACTION? You can only choose one....and based on your answer...you'll have an easier time choosing between Zach and Jeremy!
Personally...I think 7 months is a little too long to wait before making contact after a break-up, but maybe that doesn't bother YOU?
Pianoguy