So confused... dating a military man
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So confused... dating a military man
| Fri, 09-24-2004 - 11:01am |
Well I met my ex-boyfriend some time ago (about 2 years) and we've had our ups and down. He's in the military (Marine Corps). He's met my family, I've met his. His family loves me and vice versa. We've broken up several times due to his cheating. It's happened so many times. He's honest in telling me for that is what we agreed upon. (At least that's one good thing about him) During our break ups he's dated other women but we've remained on the edge of what you could call a relationship.
So I've out lasted a couple of flings, an ex-girlfriend he wanted to marry and an ex-wife. Understand I've been there for this Marine. Deployment, field ops and travels to the other side of the world. I've sent letters, care-packages and whatever else he needed and or wanted.
I was asked by him to visit his duty station and had a horrible time. Basically he ended up with someone new.. again. After returning home, finding out I was pregnant, having a miscarrage and a slew of arguments, he told me he was engaged to this new woman he'd met while I was visiting him. I was crushed and decided that leaving him alone would be best.
We have a weird kind of bond and it always brings us back together. About 5 months after the trip he contacted me and we began over. (Yes, he's still engaged) I don't know what to do. He's no longer at his old duty station but a lot closer. He's asked that I visit him at his new post and I'm confused. He's asked that I come a week before he's do to visit his fiancee at her duty station so that they could plan their wedding. It's hurting me to hear about this but I feel it would hurt more if I lose him now after so long.
I feel as if his fiancee is the other woman because I was there first.
She hasn't met his family like I have. She hasn't been there for him or gone thru have as much as I. I left wondering why not me and why her?
HELP!!!!
So I've out lasted a couple of flings, an ex-girlfriend he wanted to marry and an ex-wife. Understand I've been there for this Marine. Deployment, field ops and travels to the other side of the world. I've sent letters, care-packages and whatever else he needed and or wanted.
I was asked by him to visit his duty station and had a horrible time. Basically he ended up with someone new.. again. After returning home, finding out I was pregnant, having a miscarrage and a slew of arguments, he told me he was engaged to this new woman he'd met while I was visiting him. I was crushed and decided that leaving him alone would be best.
We have a weird kind of bond and it always brings us back together. About 5 months after the trip he contacted me and we began over. (Yes, he's still engaged) I don't know what to do. He's no longer at his old duty station but a lot closer. He's asked that I visit him at his new post and I'm confused. He's asked that I come a week before he's do to visit his fiancee at her duty station so that they could plan their wedding. It's hurting me to hear about this but I feel it would hurt more if I lose him now after so long.
I feel as if his fiancee is the other woman because I was there first.
She hasn't met his family like I have. She hasn't been there for him or gone thru have as much as I. I left wondering why not me and why her?
HELP!!!!

Sheri
I woke up in the middle of the night and got her number from the phone and called her when I returned home the next day. Told her who I was and how long I had been with him. To my surprise... she wasnt upset nor was she shocked. She actually thanked me and wanted to call me back later that evening to talk some more. I made him aware of what I did and he wasn't upset either. (Weird)
She went home after flying from the west coast where she had business. He was at her home after flying from his base. (she's also military) When she reached home that morning, after talking to him and then calling me. She said she felt that he was happier with me than she was with him. I was puzzled. How did she come to that conclusion? Beats the heck out of me but she said it and he never dissputed it.
Now I have some relief in feeling that I'm not longer a secret and if she continues to deal with him... she already knows that I'm a package deal. Not that I will definately be with him but it's hard to let go. I am trying but I'm being realistic too.
Sheri
This guy cannot stay faithful. Why would you want to marry someone like that?