so I work at a strip club
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| Thu, 12-16-2004 - 12:43am |
I figured that would get someone's attention! Actually- I do- I am not a dancer- I am a cocktaill waitress- and thus, I am sure I have lost a few members at this point- but oh well--- Anyhow- I went out with the ex b/f AGAIN tonight ( a guy I dated in high school and met up with 13 years later and dated again)- and if those are not following- please read the prior messages- or brief synopsis- ex b/f of a year is coming around again yet he is 32 and lives with new 23 year old g/f. She moved in a few months ago b/c she had to move out of her place and - as he told me at the time- had every intention of finding a new place- yet she hasn't. He has been in contact with me for the past year when he is able. Yet recently, with the present g/f every time she goes mto work- literally- the second he drops her off (b/c she doesn't have a car) he calls me on the way home and we hang out.. Thus said- please read itallie's 2-3 messages past and you will get up to speed.
So tonight- we went out for dinner again, and for some reason he rubbed my back a few times the way he used to do and i caught him out of the corner of my eye watching me. I have told him that i am dating a guy- which I kind of am but nothing enourmously (sp?) serious- I can't let on that I am just kicking around.
And finally, to answer the discussion title for anyone who is interested- and there is a funny ending to that- I do work in a strip club and so does he- he's a floor manager- which in a messed up sort of way has brought us closer together. We swap stories of the strange and weird things we have observed at work- AND WHICH WE DO NOT PARTICIPATE IN AT ALL-but we find it comforting to realize what a messed up situation we have found ourselves in as well as how do we get ourselves out if it.
Basically, my question is- should I let him get on with his girlfriend or should I keep enjoying the "whatever" I have with him. I seem to think that since we dated in high school- found each other again- dated again- and are now finding enjoyment in one another once again- maybe it might work again?! HELP!
P.S. In my other messages- I think I may have negelcted to mention the history thing- my apologies. Consider it a saga

He is not available, period. He is with someone else. And as we've all seen, if you continue to do this with him, when he is finally with you, he will probably run the same MO. My advice? Break it off once and for all. And try to identify what it is within you that would keep you going back to a relationship on someone else's terms.
Keep us posted.