So much of the "L" word
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| Tue, 06-05-2007 - 3:45pm |
So I just started seeing a guy about a month ago. I'm 27 and he is 32. We both agreed that we wanted to take things slow and develope a really healthy relationship because we see so much potential here. Things have been going just fantastic but I am starting to get confused. He is constantly using the word LOVE. It's always I love your sense of humor, I love our conversations, I love your smile, I love THIS about you, I love THAT about you...etc. Then I got a card yesterday signed "Love, ____". Whenever I have sent a card or email I always use XOXO, Nikki. We have not even had the "exclusive" talk yet so is it just me or does it seem too soon to be using the "L" word so much? Or am I over reacting and maybe he's just a lovey/dovey type of guy???
Thanks!
Nik

Nikki...
Pianoguy is wondering if this man is "testing the waters" to see how you TRULY feel about him?
So the next time he hits you with one of the 'terms of endearment' that you've described, ask him to be more specific and less generic. If he gives you some real examples, then you can ask him the fatal question:
DOES THIS MEAN WE'RE EXCLUSIVE?
Good Luck!
Pianoguy
Hi Nik,
People use "love" in casual conversation all the time. That's probably just his way of saying that he really likes something. If he "loves" something about you, it's a compliment most likely and not a hidden declaration. As for signing "love" at the end of a note, email, or letter, it's a common closing to use when addressing someone you feel affectionate with.
The BIG "I Love You" dropping will probably wait until after exclusivity. Congratulations, you are dating someone who seems to be really into you!
Holly