SO, THERES THIS GUY THAT I REALLY LIKE

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Registered: 12-27-2006
SO, THERES THIS GUY THAT I REALLY LIKE
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Sat, 04-21-2007 - 1:45am
...and I know that he likes me too, the thing is that we are both pretty shy. So, with the suggestion of my mom, I wrote him a letter saying that "...I've never done this before... I don't know if you have a girlfriend but if you don't, here's my myspace and cell phone number so that we can talk out side" . So, he got the letter 4 days ago. In your opinion, how long should it take for him to respond? Take into consideration that he is shy, and so am I, and everytime that we see each other, we shot each other these little grins and stares and he even tries his best to talk to me, little things like complimenting my sweater or asking little questions, we're both to shy to go into a major conversation! What would you do in order to pursue someone you liked if you were both shy, and he hasn't responded to a letter? Do I give the letter more time or move on to a new strategy? Also though, we don't know eachother well, I've only see him at his job occasionally when I go into the store he works at, could that probably play into the situation? Also, last Saturday, we ran into a eachother at Burger King and he was SO nervous, we couldn't believe that out of all places, we ran into eachother, it was there! All he could do was stare! Thanks for your opinion!


Edited 4/21/2007 2:29 am ET by lelashines
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Sat, 04-21-2007 - 2:16am

On one side, If 4 days have pastand still no response I'd move on to a more DIRECT strategy, like asking him out point blank. He has your myspace page and phone number and he's done nothing. Waiting will only give you some more of that. It seems that his shyness won't get any better any time soon so if you want to date him you better take the lead. Ask him out to coffee, ice cream, a stroll down the street or else. If he doesn't say peep, he's not a good BF candidate.

On the flip side, it's also possible that the guy isn't interested at all. If he has you number and letter and he hasn't called or else then he may not be interested in taking the little flirting going on to a level of face to face and one on one relationship. The guy may never crack his shell. I'd move on to a more willing guy.

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Registered: 11-30-2006
Sat, 04-21-2007 - 2:20am

That was very gutsy. First of all, are you sure he got the letter? Did you mail it to his house? It could take a guy a few days to respond because he doesn't want to seem too anxious. For some strange reason people play head games with each other because they don't want to appear foolish, but all it does is make you look foolish.

The next time you both chat (not sure by your post if it is where he works or at school), you could mention the letter to see if he got it and then go from there. Or you don't bring it up at all,thinking that if he was interested he would call. If you are confident that he did, indeed, get the letter, and chooses to not talk to you about it or call then, if it were me, I would back off and find greener pastures elsewhere.