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Is this something that can work?
| Fri, 08-12-2005 - 10:20am |
I met a guy a little over one month ago and we were instant friend which escalated into something more quickly. He had led me to believe through conversation he only had one child and at the end of the first date it had climbed to two kids. He had also told me that first date that there was something he needed to tell me sometime but not yet(something that could change my opinion). I do not want children of my own and he knew this from day one. The fact that he had two was hard but I was willing to accept it. A month later I asked him to come clean and that is when I found out he actually had two additional kids making it 4. He has no contact with his first two due to circumstances (his first child was from a 26 year old when he was only 16 and he never knew until the child was 11 and the second was from his ex-wife that moved and has no contact with him). Anyhow, I found that I am not able to just forget about him but the fact that he lied and has 4 kids is something I am not sure I can deal with. I decided to take a day at a time but it might be doomed from the start. He is 28 (so young!) and I am 27. Well...this is long but should I give this a shot or just try to move on now while I am not in too deep with him? Thanks :)

Well, you need to decide whether this is something YOU can get over in your head. If you think there is no way you can get over the fact that the guy 1) LIED to you 2) has 4 children...then you better not get involved. I would be a little wary of a guy who lies on the first date when telling to truth isnt costing him anything since it is only the first date. He obviously isnt comfortable himself with the fact that he has 4 children by such an early age since he didnt want to tell you. Think about it and then make the decision asap..good luck!
~T~