Is something wrong with me?
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Is something wrong with me?
| Sun, 10-10-2004 - 4:27am |
This is my problem I have a boyfriend who I love very much and we've been together five months. He's deployed in the Army but he recently got back from Iraq and all of a sudden my normally loving always paying attention to me boyfriend is being so distant. He used to call me everyday several times a day and always tell me how much he loved me and wanted to be with me and he still tells me that but now he only makes time for me like once or twice a week for five minutes. I just can't understand why he's pulling away and why my normally loving boyfriend is being distant to me now. I mean I have asked him if he's being faithful to me or if he's met someone else and he says no and tells me he loves me all the time and says he thinks of me all the time and misses me very much. So am I being paranoid here or should I suspect something is really going on am i being too demanding and not understanding enough or do I have a right to feel this way? I'm beginning to think that maybe something is wrong with me and he just doesn't like me anymore or love me anymore. I've heard nothing from him in a week and he hasn't called me on the phone since Aug 30th. When he was in Iraq we talked every single day and he had less access to a phone then he does now. I'm really started to feel like it's me I mean he never makes time for me I mean I know he's also paying child support for a 1 year old so I don't know if I'm being too hard on him or if I should be more understanding. It's just I'm getting so sick of this I tell him time and time again I feel neglected and that I want him to make more time for me and all he does is tell me he loves me and apologizes for not being a better boyfriend. I mean instead of him apologizing I want him to be a better boyfriend I feel like he never listens to me. I don't want to breakup with him but I'm also tired of being hurt all the time that he doesn't make time for me. I feel like he never considers my feelings or listens to anything I say he used to be so considerate of my feelings and I really don't understand what happened to the guy I fell in love with ever since he left Iraq he's changed he's definitely not the same guy I fell in love with and I don't know what happened to him. He's not mean to be I don't know what but something has changed and I'm beginning to think it's his feelings towards me even though he insists he loves me and misses me all the time and thinks of me all the time.

The more you get on his case about neglecting you, the more he's going to be hesitant to call you.
He's in the military. With everything going on right now, I'm sure he's stressed out to the max. No offense, but I think his personal life is on the back burner right now. That's just the way it is.
You should listen to the song "American Soldier" by Toby Keith - I think it's a good tribute to soldiers and how they have to live their lives.
Just try to put yourself in his shoes: he's millions of miles away from home, he's in the military during an extremely tough time in the world, God only knows what's going on where he is.