Sooo Confused...why hasn't he called??

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Registered: 06-11-2004
Sooo Confused...why hasn't he called??
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Fri, 06-11-2004 - 11:43pm
Hi my name is Marsha and I have been seeing this guy since Easter. It has been a very casual relationship in the sense that whenever I would ask him which direction our relationship was going he could never answer me, and yet when I brought it up later on he replied "i thought we discussed this already"meaning we are together. So it has never been oficially said that we are an item, but we did stuff a couple does together. One night we had a conversation and he made the comment "i have the tendancy of breaking girl's hearts...so dont get too attached"I was offended and suggested that we break up if that was the case, but he did not want to and went back and said eventually one of us would get hurt becuase we are so young. so ever since that comment I have been weary..plus he told me about a story of how he was quite busy with his job and ended up hurting a girl's feelings, because he did not call her for two weeks and did not feel the same for her just when she started to feel more for him...I am assuming attachment scares him, so I have been very cool, calm and reserved with him. He actually landed a job as a campaign manager which is very demanding and which also means he works half an hour away from 6 am till 12 at night each day pretty much. I had no idea that he landed the job at first and it wasnt until I spoke to his roomate which is also my friend, that I found out he got the job...So I freaked out because he did not call me for three days and when he tried the reception was so bad...we eventually saw each other which was last sunday and it was very brief cause he was so exhuasted...It is now friday and I have not recievd a phone call never mind seen him. I know that there is no reception on his cell phone and that he does not like to use the office phone, because it is long distance, and now that he is staying in a motel instead of driving home every night it also means that he does not call when he enters my city, where the reception is better. I think that if a guy likes a girl he will call her or contact her no matter what! Is he blowing me off???

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Registered: 08-07-2003
Sat, 06-12-2004 - 3:22am
In my experience, when a guy wants to call/contact you, he stops at nothing to find a way to do so...I say that you are probably right about him being afraid of commitment. I'm no good at coming up ith the solutions to problems, so I can't help with what you should do about it, but I hope this helped at least a little. :D

I wish you tons of luck -and- loads of happiness...hope it works out.

just my 2 cents

~Cookie

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Registered: 08-10-2003
Sat, 06-12-2004 - 10:12pm
The guy's telling you...I'm not looking for a serious relationship..he's telling you: don't expect anythign from me, just go with the flow and take what ever I wanna give you. The story about the girl he "hurt" for not calling is probably what he's doing to you. Dump this losser and next time listen to the guy says and does.