Soul Mates/Room Mates
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Soul Mates/Room Mates
| Wed, 02-22-2006 - 1:27pm |
Well me and my boyfiend have been goind out since January 13th 2006 but we've been friends 6 months before that.Im 18 and he's 19 I love him alot and we want a apartment together. I never lived on my own before and neither has he, we love each other alot, we dont argue, I have fun with him, when Im with him Im always smiling, when Im not Im sad. When he's mad I cry and he can tell when something is bothering me when no one else can. He likes giving me his last anything.He knows me so well in and out. My sister wants me to move in with her because she does not think Im ready, also she thinks Im too young for such a seroius relationship. She believes I need time of my own first and then move on with a guy. She thinks Im too young to have found the perfect guy for me and thinks I should still go out and party and have fun and then met that one when Im a little older. She beleives that I will grow up too quick and wont have fun anymore at a young age.I beleive he's my soul mate cause he is so perfect. I mean nothing is wrong, everything seems so right and It feels really odd.Is he my soul mate or Is everything just good between us because we want it to be? But Im not sure what I should do. Me and my boyfriend have talked about moving in with each other but still is unsure beacause of my sister's comment. I really dont know what I should do. Should I move in with him or my sister or get an apartment of my own?

Listen to your sister - she sounds like a smart young woman. You have been dating a month - you are still very much in the honeymoon phase of your relationship. Everyone's on their best behavior trying to not hurt the other and be the best that you can be. After about 6 months of DATING (not just knowing each other) the real person starts to come out. You might find things you don't like about each other, you might argue or you might find that you love each other even more. But you definitely should have time living on your own to discover how you like it, what you want out of life and so on.
Why not move into an apartment with your sister - sign a 6 month lease. Continue to see your b/f and go on with the relationship. while you don't have to go out and party and date a ton of guys, take your time with THIS one. You're 18 years old and have your whole life ahead of you. Maybe he's the one, maybe not. But by taking time to get to know each other slowly in a less intense situation than LIVING together, you stand a much better chance of making it. Often young couples rush things because you have that mentality that you want to make things happen NOW!!! If you are right for each other, you have the next 70 years of your life together. If you're not right for each other, it will be a lot easier to find that out if you're not living together. When you live together, you have an excuse to not end things if they're bad - "Oh, we have a lease together, we have the bills, we have the dog we bought..." and it IS much harder to get out. Take your time, hon! If you sign that 6 month lease with your sister and then in 6 months still feel you want to move in with your b/f, revisit it then.
<< My sister wants me to move in with her because she does not think Im ready, also she thinks Im too young for such a seroius relationship. >>
Your sister is right. Whether you move in with her, or with another friend ... do not move in with your BF. It's too early. Give your relationship some time to develop. You're too young to even realize yet, what a BIG decision living with someone is. Take some time to become your own person, while letting your relationship with him grow.
It's only been a month since you've been dating. What's the rush?
Or, if you want to "learn it the hard way" ... feel free to move in with your BF, watch it crash and burn while you guys try to "play house" together. It's not as glorious and EASY as it may seem to be.
You still have a lot of learning and growing up to do. Don't rush it.