spending more time....

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-07-2003
spending more time....
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Mon, 06-21-2004 - 10:15am
how do i let him know i want to see him more?

my bf has plans to go home or away almost every weekend next month...i wish he would invite me with him but i don't know how to make that happen. is there a way to invite myself or begin a discussion without sounding too pushy or forcing the relationship to move quicker than it wants to?

i just wish he would invite me without me having to ask. he's typically kinda shy when it comes to asking me out or even to come over his place i think cause he doesn't want to impose/inconvenience me. i am shy/passive person too, but i almost always agree to meet him and have been asking him to see me more. but how else can i let him know i care about him and want to spend more time together?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 06-21-2004 - 11:48am
You have to get over your shyness and verbalize your needs. It sounds like you'd wish he was psychic! How long have you been dating? I don't think it's pushy to say to him, 'you're going away a lot next month and I'm going to be missing you. Can we make some plans to spend more time together?

I find it interesting that you think he's a shy person...if I were to experience the behaviors you're describing, I'd think he wasn't that intersted.

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Registered: 05-26-2004
Tue, 06-22-2004 - 11:44am
you cant get what you want if you wont ask for it....so ask how he feels.

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