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Stabbed in the heart...
| Mon, 03-19-2007 - 6:34pm |
Hi everyone...I've come here before and always received great advice...so I am visiting again because my heart has been stabbed and it is hurting badly. Anyway, I am in this dating world still, in my early 30's. This is a long story...I was just dating a guy (he ended it about 3 1/2 weeks ago) that I was set up from someone I know back in late July 2006. Well I wasn't too sure about him after a couple of dates, but he kept calling so I figured I'd give it more dates, and keep trying, etc. At about the 4th date something happened and I fell for him. This is when he began to (it seemed like it) to pull away. We had 2 more dates and we became intimate. I thought things were going ok, but he always seemed distant and he would cancel on me soemtimes--I didn't like that. So, we were going to go on our 7th date but he had to cancel becasue he was sick. I had called him 2 days later to see how he was feeling but low and behold he started a talk w/me that wasn't good. He claimed something was missing in the relationship if we even had one, that he didn't know what..same as g/f's he'd had in the past. He said he still wanted to talk to me and hang out just take it a step back. I told him we really have not gotten to know each other much, as we only have hung out 6 times, but if he didn't feel it--what was I going to do--blah blah blah...but he couldn't stop saying how we had such great intimate chemistry and that he was attracted to me and the works, but still something was missing. ???
Anyway, I said okay fine...don't understand but we'll see what happens...anyway he texted messaged me a few days later basically hello and that he was busy w/work, etc. I texted what I was doing, etc...So I didn't hear back from him until 2 weeks later--wishing me a Happy holiday. I returned the call and we spoke for a few mins. as he rushes off the phone almost always...I refused to call him after the conversation we had had prior, it hurt to have called him up and then springing that talk on me...so another 2 weeks goes by
and then I get another call from him...what's up how am I doing...wants to make plans to hang out...so I went w/it made plans w/him...we hung out the next weekend it was really good, we learned more of each other, etc. Then he kept calling me saying how he had a good time, etc...I would always get a little nervous on the phone w/him and stomach jitters as I liked him a lot...I guess it interferred w/me talking etc...but I would try and make good conversation...anyway we hung out again--all good. Then I got mad at him a bit because we didn't hang for New Year's and he called me not confident because I didn't mention it and didn't ask him to hang--etc...well whatever!!! I am confident as I think so. So, he called me a few days later we spoke and he said not sure what he was doing for the weekend--that he would call me during the weekend. Well that call never came, and he would always say that he would call me. So he calls me after the weekend and asks why I never call him..I said no reason and that I was busy. Anyway we made plans for that weekend, I called to say hi during that week...we hung out was a fun time--etc. Then we made plans to hang out the next weekend or so but he always had some excuse, etc. making it like he didn't want to hang out w/me even though he said he did--etc. Anyway he was going away the following weekend and so I didn't see him until he came back. But before we hung out he brought the same conversation as he did months ago...he was annoyed I didn't call him or text him while he was away --even though he said that he would call when he got back, then he got into the conversation about he thinks he knows whats missing & it's the lack of communication on the phone and that I just don't add to the conversation much and didn't know if it was just that I didn't care or if it was a lack of intelligence--(yeah right???). I was mad--I have advanced degrees I am not dumb! And yes, he insulted my intelligence or then he said it was a bad choice of words--whatever!! I told him that he always rushed me off the phone & dominated the conversation--blah blah blah..I said if you stay on the phone I will talk about lots & lots...so whatever I was annoyed and shocked because we had just had a great little conversation the day after he got back and he wanted to see me. Hot and cold he is very much!! So, I made it a pt to call him and then we hung out that weekend--had some strange talks and he kept on giving me advice that I didn't ask for...He named all the good things about me--I told him how i felt and he just kept on saying how he's known how it feels to have it all in a relationship and that he didn't want to have hesitations in one..anyway, the rest of the night was good, then he left. Of course every detail I can't write, but then he called me the next day we had a good conversation, etc, spoke to him all week--things were good...then that weekend we were supposed to hang out and he had to cancel due to being sick--huh!! Then I called him the next night and he said he'd call me back--didn't know who he was talking to, but I kinda felt like he may be talking to some other girl--didn't know for sure..so he doesn't call back for an hr and a half so I wa sin the bathroom and he left a message saying he was going to bed and that he'd call me tomorrow. I was mad and hr and a half later??? So, I called him the next night and he didn't answer...well he called me back the next night and said he was busy w/work but that he had to "talk" to me again---(dreadful)so he ramped and raved how great of a girl I was and that he just felt like something was still missing and he didn't want to hold me back from anything-etc., and that he could only be a friend to me right now and that he had to be on his own and do his own thing and yad yada...so i was upset...He also sais that if I didn't want to be friends tha twas ok too...but i said we could etc..and then he said I can call him and invite him out sometimes and maybe something will spark getting to know each other as friends. He said he would call me this week and I said he didn't have to if he didn't want to then he said he would & let's see what happens...so he said he just wanted to put an end or a pause to this & maybe take it up in the summer or something...conversation ended I was crushed. So, a week and a half later he texted me a message to say hi & that he was busy at work..we talked a bit, that was it. Well, this is where I was stabbed at this point--I texted him a message a few days ago -Hi what's up wanted to say hi...figured he'd just say hi back---oh no, it was hi been wanting to call ya & been busy at work and also now dating someone new and trying to juggle everything & how was I doing?--Oh so now I want to fall down--I should have never reached out to say hello. Big mistake--I don't know why I did it!!! I figured if he was seeing others but he would have the decency to not tell me that--right!! No...he stabbed me in the heart!! Who does that 3 weeks after you break someones heart? So, I sent a message back to him just saying I was good and doing the same things as him...he wrote back that that was good to hear...My question is who the heck does that 3 weeks after breaking up whatever we had together???? That was soooo rude & mean, I could scream!!!I have never done anything to hurt him ever! I was so close to telling him off on text but my friend said not too because it makes me look desparate & that I really care. Any advice??...I am just sooo upset! I want to tell the person who set us up everything as she knows most of it already...what should I do...I know I have to move on but just havent met anyone else yet...I really liked him and now I feel hatred toward him for this dig...Thanks for reading and helping me out! It's much appreciated!
Anyway, I said okay fine...don't understand but we'll see what happens...anyway he texted messaged me a few days later basically hello and that he was busy w/work, etc. I texted what I was doing, etc...So I didn't hear back from him until 2 weeks later--wishing me a Happy holiday. I returned the call and we spoke for a few mins. as he rushes off the phone almost always...I refused to call him after the conversation we had had prior, it hurt to have called him up and then springing that talk on me...so another 2 weeks goes by
and then I get another call from him...what's up how am I doing...wants to make plans to hang out...so I went w/it made plans w/him...we hung out the next weekend it was really good, we learned more of each other, etc. Then he kept calling me saying how he had a good time, etc...I would always get a little nervous on the phone w/him and stomach jitters as I liked him a lot...I guess it interferred w/me talking etc...but I would try and make good conversation...anyway we hung out again--all good. Then I got mad at him a bit because we didn't hang for New Year's and he called me not confident because I didn't mention it and didn't ask him to hang--etc...well whatever!!! I am confident as I think so. So, he called me a few days later we spoke and he said not sure what he was doing for the weekend--that he would call me during the weekend. Well that call never came, and he would always say that he would call me. So he calls me after the weekend and asks why I never call him..I said no reason and that I was busy. Anyway we made plans for that weekend, I called to say hi during that week...we hung out was a fun time--etc. Then we made plans to hang out the next weekend or so but he always had some excuse, etc. making it like he didn't want to hang out w/me even though he said he did--etc. Anyway he was going away the following weekend and so I didn't see him until he came back. But before we hung out he brought the same conversation as he did months ago...he was annoyed I didn't call him or text him while he was away --even though he said that he would call when he got back, then he got into the conversation about he thinks he knows whats missing & it's the lack of communication on the phone and that I just don't add to the conversation much and didn't know if it was just that I didn't care or if it was a lack of intelligence--(yeah right???). I was mad--I have advanced degrees I am not dumb! And yes, he insulted my intelligence or then he said it was a bad choice of words--whatever!! I told him that he always rushed me off the phone & dominated the conversation--blah blah blah..I said if you stay on the phone I will talk about lots & lots...so whatever I was annoyed and shocked because we had just had a great little conversation the day after he got back and he wanted to see me. Hot and cold he is very much!! So, I made it a pt to call him and then we hung out that weekend--had some strange talks and he kept on giving me advice that I didn't ask for...He named all the good things about me--I told him how i felt and he just kept on saying how he's known how it feels to have it all in a relationship and that he didn't want to have hesitations in one..anyway, the rest of the night was good, then he left. Of course every detail I can't write, but then he called me the next day we had a good conversation, etc, spoke to him all week--things were good...then that weekend we were supposed to hang out and he had to cancel due to being sick--huh!! Then I called him the next night and he said he'd call me back--didn't know who he was talking to, but I kinda felt like he may be talking to some other girl--didn't know for sure..so he doesn't call back for an hr and a half so I wa sin the bathroom and he left a message saying he was going to bed and that he'd call me tomorrow. I was mad and hr and a half later??? So, I called him the next night and he didn't answer...well he called me back the next night and said he was busy w/work but that he had to "talk" to me again---(dreadful)so he ramped and raved how great of a girl I was and that he just felt like something was still missing and he didn't want to hold me back from anything-etc., and that he could only be a friend to me right now and that he had to be on his own and do his own thing and yad yada...so i was upset...He also sais that if I didn't want to be friends tha twas ok too...but i said we could etc..and then he said I can call him and invite him out sometimes and maybe something will spark getting to know each other as friends. He said he would call me this week and I said he didn't have to if he didn't want to then he said he would & let's see what happens...so he said he just wanted to put an end or a pause to this & maybe take it up in the summer or something...conversation ended I was crushed. So, a week and a half later he texted me a message to say hi & that he was busy at work..we talked a bit, that was it. Well, this is where I was stabbed at this point--I texted him a message a few days ago -Hi what's up wanted to say hi...figured he'd just say hi back---oh no, it was hi been wanting to call ya & been busy at work and also now dating someone new and trying to juggle everything & how was I doing?--Oh so now I want to fall down--I should have never reached out to say hello. Big mistake--I don't know why I did it!!! I figured if he was seeing others but he would have the decency to not tell me that--right!! No...he stabbed me in the heart!! Who does that 3 weeks after you break someones heart? So, I sent a message back to him just saying I was good and doing the same things as him...he wrote back that that was good to hear...My question is who the heck does that 3 weeks after breaking up whatever we had together???? That was soooo rude & mean, I could scream!!!I have never done anything to hurt him ever! I was so close to telling him off on text but my friend said not too because it makes me look desparate & that I really care. Any advice??...I am just sooo upset! I want to tell the person who set us up everything as she knows most of it already...what should I do...I know I have to move on but just havent met anyone else yet...I really liked him and now I feel hatred toward him for this dig...Thanks for reading and helping me out! It's much appreciated!

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oh dear... so complicated, so familiar and so simple in a sense. im in the same boat and since its true what they say "its easier to give advice than to follow it urself" i will try to
one of my guyfriends told me once "guys r very simple in fact. if he loves and needs u, he will turn the world upside down to be with u.if he doesnt, he will find loads of excuses to avoid u, the responsiblity, the relationship".
from what i read u r in the relationship with this guy but it seems like he is not. he likes to hang out with u, he is used to u caring, checking on him... so often, we- women, build in our head the romantic story and believe that he is THE ONE, althgough the guy did ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to prove it to us. I personally decided that i will fall for a guy and will start to see my life with him only after he has proven that he cares for me and we have been together for much more than 3 months (my past intense 3 months relationship fell apart 2 months ago and i still cant get over the shock..)
my close friend told me yday "remember how in sex and the city Smith flew from Mexico just to say "i love u" to Samantha? and how he stayed by her side when she found out about her cancer? u need a guy like that. not some looser who doesnt know what he wants. and dont settle for less"
hugs... accept that ur story with him is over. and that it wasnt meant to be. remind urself WHY ur first days u didnt feel anything for him. Maybe u persuaded urself that he is great when in fact ur gut instinc was telling u that he is not? i know its easy to say than to do. last night i was on the verge of calling my ex and beg him back. thank god didnt do it. called a friend instead, went back to this site and read the postings.
stop seeing him, talking to him, writing him - i learned it the hard way that the only way to move on is to stop contact with the person who hurts u. and im afraid in this story U R the one who is hurt
Thanks so much for taking the time out to read my story and give some good advice. I know it's true all that you said and I do want that guy that is going to want to be with me and not complain that I don't call him or make excuses and tell me that 80% is there and 20% not...part of the reason I didn't feel for him in the beginning was because I was weary of men having been in lots of realtionships that didn't work and mostly a long term relationship that ended in the guy cheating. He said he had lots of friends that were female, so I got scared a bit...but I knew I am not a jealous type and I saw him in a different light and started to like him. On the next few dates he started doing the right things..like taking me to dinner and a ball game amongst other stuff.
I guess I have to accept some how that the story is over but it just hurts because I really stated to like him even though he didn't go out of his way for me...I don't know what it is I just felt like we were supposed to be together or something, it felt so perfect how we met and all...and that the person who set us up I love so much and love to be part of that family and all. It would have been a perfect thing. I can't but wonder if I had called more and not had been so available--if it would have made him spark more attention to me...but everyone tells me to play hard to get and hardly ever call, etc. And I never had to call a guy, they always just called me and I called once in a while...but who knows...Thanks so much for the advice... and I hope you find the right person--you sound like a really nice person. Huh---I should have never reached out because I hurt myself in the end. That's just so frustrating! Yes, I will follow your advice and do the things you say and stick to it...It's so hard to beleive I still am going thru this dating stuff, but we can't settle for less--I need to live by that rule!! Thanks so much for helping me & caring too...it means a lot to me. Talk to you again soon!! :o)
i understand u so well. u know, with my ex we met at the wedding of our very close friends. & first 2.5 months were the best in my dating life. i felt so complete with him that i stopped playing hard to get and opened my heart. i was happy - until one night we had a long talk and he told me that he is actually tired of relationships and he just needs to be alone and that he is not ready to build a long lasting serious relationships with anyone. so i walked away and cried my eyes out. well - the story is on display on the board, so...and just before this relationship i was 4years with a guy who cheated badly on me...
what i want to say is that i can really really related to ur story - its amazing but we all pretty much go sooner or later thru the same cycle - up until we settle with someone who is great and who is perfect for us - not because we want him to be perfect - but thru what he does.
i think its best for u not to analyse why he did it. no one is an open book. i still have no clue at all what really happened in the head and in the heart of my ex - our separation was such a shock to me... and i have no clue why my other ex cheated on me a week after writng me a 2 pages long love letter telling me that im love of his life and he can never afford losing me. u will never be able to find a true reason - so its best to leave it, to forbid urself to think about it; erase it from ur memory. hard - SO HARD - but think - in the long term would u rely on this guy in the tough times? did he ever show u that he is worth the trust? is he really that great as u imagined him to be? i really doubt...
its his loss and im sure sooner or later he will realise it. and maybe he will even ask u back. but then it will be ur choice - is this what u want or u need much more from a guy in terms of love, care and attention
Again--thanks so much for being there for me and talking me through this.
You have really pointed out some great things to me.
Oh wow, yes--what similiar experiences we have had...very interesting.
I did read your posts, and you are really strong (and very right)
to walk away from him..he wasn't going to give you what you wanted so
there really is no point in making it any harder for yourself
by sticking around. I have to follow what you did, it's the only right thing to do!
I have to stop analyzing this whole situation...but maybe I led on as desparate??Ok I will stop that I promise!
Yes, I really do see the importance of finding a guy that's
worthy of me & that's going to do nice things and be there for me instead of
doing crap for me...he showed me he is NOT trustworthy
& will probably NOT be there for me in rought times, he is self centered
and lots of other negative things...he just is not the kind of
guy I want to be with...especially after all the hurtful things he
has deliberately said to me, he (it seems like it anyway) goes out of his way
to be mean and hurtful to me and I do not need that in my life in any shape, way or form.
I know this, I really do, just can't believe i was settling for less,
geeze what's wrong w/me?
That thing you told me about your ex who cheated...proclaiming
his love for you in a letter, well my ex did that too &
verbally also, that I was the only one for him
& blah blah blah...just a few weeks before he left. So similiar...
NO--it is not what I need and want in terms of love care and attention
I pt blank told him I needed to see him at least once or twice a week
& not just every couple of weeks--that's not how you get to know soemone and
be in a relationship and the phone is just what it is-the phone! Quality time spent
w/one another is the most important thing in my eyes and being there 4
one another...if he can't be a real man to me and do what he's supposed
to and give me what I want & need, then I have no use for him--right? I'm NOT
settling for less anymore!!! Yes, I am sure he will realize what he threw away and if he ever tries to come back, if I ever gave him another chance, ( or any other guy for that matter) it would be on my terms only & if he can't live up to it--then it's good riddens!! Thanks so much for your encouraging words...I feel a whole lot better already. :o)
Edited 3/21/2007 10:44 pm ET by marveloustobe
i'm really glad u feel better :)- this site really helped me out and if i didnt have the support of board members i would have never made it thru this break up. and u r completely right about the importance of quality time together - what else is called relationship then??
life is too short to waste it on tears for something that is not meant to be yours and something u probably dont really need anyways. no matter how great the person whom we are letting go is - if he doesnt want to be around - well the door is open and the world of full of great men.
u know, once on this site i read great words that just stuck in my head and i always get back to them in the times of separation (love, family, friends..). it was something like "Everyone we meet in life is there with a purpose - a message to pass us, to make us understand something about us, make us stronger, or to lead us to another stage in life. Once their "mission" is completed, they will leave. So when its their time to go, let them leave. dont turn this separation into painful and tearful experience. They are leaving because its time for them to leave. Accept it, understand what was their mission and look forward in life".
When i applied this once again to my separation i saw that in fact i did get much stronger, i found true friends in the city where before i felt stranger, i finally signed up for sports and now look and feel great, and for the first time i felt happy on my own - without desperately clingling to a guy (who at the end wasnt worth all my time and feelings!!)
maybe its silly :) but it helps me when i think in these terms :)
hold on strong!! u deserve a guy who will wake u up with a huge bouquet of ur favorite flowers, who will never tell u hurtful things, who will look forward to the dates with u, who will love ur smile and hate ur tears, who will proudly say to his friends "this is my girlfriend and who will bla bla less and act more :) Im totally SURE in this. and this is the guy u should fall for - so save ur feelings for him!
Thanks for the great advice once again..and the kind words.
Oh I totally know I deserve all that--thanks and that's what
I need and want as well. I don't want to be with someone who does not
want to be with me, that's the bottom line! Hope my prince charming shows up soon!
Anyway, just wanted to share with you--
I had a weird encounter last week.
Just when I thought to myself I am forgeting the past & moving on,
I bump into his Mom in one of the stores...weird!!
She's only met me like twice and I didn't
even think she'd remember what I looked like.
She was nice and was asking me how I was & what was going on
blah blah blah. I never expected to ever see her. Thought that was weird.
She never mentioned him though. I was very nice & didn't either.
Figured I'd be classy (which I am) and keep her liking me and
not say anything negative about her son. I was caught off guard and didn't really know what to say, I felt a bit uncomfortable. Thought that was a strange run in though..I'm sure she called him up & told him. That's never happened to me before. It was like a Sex & the City kinda episode as I feel like my life has mimicked that show for a long time now. LOL!! Ok--thanks for listening..talk to you soon!! :o)
Hi marvelous. I just noticed your original post and the subsequent posts. I really feel for you. This guy is not worth the pain you have endured. Funny, looking at that scenario I would have handled the original conversation with him differently. The one I am referring to is the one after he cancelled the date because he was sick where he told you something was missing. I have experienced this routine before and it usually doesn't go anywhere special, only for a while until the guy finds someone who he feels that "zing" for. Until then, he uses you.
In the future, might I suggest you cut things off right then and there. In other words, if he says "no special feelings" then it is, "okay, then lets say goodbye" because you deserve better, and you know it. No sense hanging on to a square peg when you require a round peg because the square one will not ever be round. I hung on one extra week after a guy said that to me. I suspected he was an abuser, but I needed to see what his game was. And I was correct in assuming he just wanted to screw with my mind (and my body) until he was "done" with me. Of course, now I look at that experience and want to vomit because I can't believe I slept with that "thing". But, in those 3 weeks I learned enough to guide me through the last 6 years. Sometimes you gotta "take one for the team." hehe.
The other scenario I had similar to this, but without malice, was another guy who I had a fling with for about 5 months. I am including the first month where we would talk on the phone for 4 hours at a time before we went out. He was very honest with me from the start that he wanted "casual" and I agreed to this because he was about 6 years younger than me. I knew that it wouldn't go anywhere with someone with his religious background and age difference, but I wanted to have fun As we got into whatever it was you want to call this, it was apparent that our relationship and parting would get a little complicated because we really did like each other. He expressed that as well. He came straight out and said, "I adore you, but I'll never love you." Now, that was okay for me at that time,and I suspect he may have felt differently about my emotions. I enjoyed this guy. He was impulsive in a romantic type of way and alot of fun. He put the fun back into dating for that time. Where I drew the line was when he wanted to date more than one person. Again, he was honest with me. I don't share. Even if it is something that will not gel into anything more, I still don't share. It was good that I stepped back because now he and that girl got married and I am sure they are happy together.
Please please please do not read anything into running into his mom at the store. What you got to do with that encounter is show how classy you really are, so hopefully the guy feels like crap. Good for you! The jerk you dated confused you and played with your emotions and the desire that women have to make sure a relationship "works". So you give it more time, give him his space and it results in nothing because that is how he intended for it to go.
There is no "prince charming", sorry. He was invented by a cruel man many years ago to make us dream for things that may not be real and to sell books. But, the good news is that there has to be a guy out there who doesn't play head games, treats you well and enjoys your company and if you feel he is your prince charming, then okay by me.
Be patient and be strong.
Hello :) Happy Easter to u too!
I can imagine how difficult it was for u to come across his mother. I bet she realises how great u were for her son - otherwise why would she be so nice to u? And its very possible that she called him afterwards to tell that she saw u.
I still cant imagine and dont want to come across my ex or anyone from his family- even after 2 months since break up i'm not ready and think it will set me back. Hope it didnt happen to u. Hold on strong. Remember that it was his choice and u refused to run after him. So its his BIG loss.
u know, this weekend i went to Amsterdam together with my close friends. We had a blast there. But throughout all my trip i couldnt stop thinking 'this is the city my ex adores.this is where he really wanted to take me.we almost even booked tickets for our trip in march..why did our break up happen?we were so great together.so happy..'. But then i would come back to my thinking 'no matter how great he is and he was to me, he decided he wants out. he didnt love me strong enough to give up all silly committment issues from the fear to lose me. he let me go and didnt do anything real to keep me in his life. so TOO BAD FOR HIM.' And i laughed, joked and enjoyed to the full the beauty of this city. Without him.
they say the best remedy to REALLY forget someone is to start dating another. Although its so weird - u cant truly move on until u date another. and to date another u need ot move on from the past. what should we do??? :)
have a great day and keep being strong! strong woman represents immense attraction to everyone around - beautiful, great, sexy, funny and caring to those who treat her right ;)
I'm around if u need me - always happy to chat. It helps me too a lot to move on
helping me out. You point out a lot of good things.
Thanks for sharing stories too...helped a great deal!
Wow, you went thru that too..seems like a lot of us go thru similar things
with men. It's frustrating. But I am trying not to read into things too much.
This one was really hard because he just...I guess.. got to me and
I so much wanted it to work out when I really started falling
for him. But I know I deserve much better than that and
a guy that will want to be w/me and not hurt me and love me
for who I truly am!
Thanks so much again, it really helps to see others points of view. :o)
Hi picky2002! Hope you had a nice holiday! Thank you again for helping me out, being there for me and all your kind words. It really means some much to me
that nice people take the time out to write in and help and are very
honest too. Much appreciated!! :o)
Oh I know--I can't believe I ran into her...so unexpected. I know she liked me though
and I showed just how classy of a person that I am to her--but she knows anyway.
She knows it could have been a great thing, if her son wasn't such an idiot! LOL!!
It did set me back a bit, brought back some memeories--but I am doing ok. You know all those thoughts go running thru your head, "what ifs?" and stuff, but I know i will be alright. I'm trying to be strong!! I gave it my best and that's all i can do! I can just hope for the best.
Oh I hope you never bump into any of your ex's relatives or friends or him for that matter. That's great that you took that trip, I am sure you had a wonderful time. And you did it knowing that it was supposed to be a trip for the 2 of you & u still went--he totally missed out on a great trip w/you. It does make you stronger of a person. Good for you!! You did it on your own!!
I don't know why things go the way they do sometimes, but know that you did everything you could, you didn't ruin anything--he did, he wanted to exit, not you. I am glad to hear you had a good time though with your friends, sometimes that's all that it takes to hang with your good friends and family too...they are the people who will love you to the end and stick w/you!
Yes, it is true, but how do you move on to the next when you are still thinking of the last one?--it's hard but I am hoping we both meet and start dating another guy that will be great and get us over the past. That's what we need and we'll see where life brings us!! But it is soooo very hard to go on, it's so easy to resort to the comfy past. We'll get through it and get to where we are supposed to be!! :o) Thanks so much!! Yes, we must be strong!!! Whooooo--It's hard!! Thanks for chatting w/me and it helps sooooo much just by talking to you...have a nice night. :o)
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