Stamina during sex is this good or bad

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Registered: 11-24-2012
Stamina during sex is this good or bad
Wed, 02-06-2013 - 11:48pm

Is stamina during sex a good thing or bad with a guy. I'vejihad instances where it's intense and fast and whether it's intimate and long lasting, but I've been told that stamina is a bad thing if it last more than 45 mins becausethat meantethered is a disconnect and the sex isn't good????

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Thu, 02-07-2013 - 10:13am

If you mean that the actual intercourse lasts longer than 45 mins, I think if the guy is older, it doesn't mean that he's not connected but it could mean that he's having a problem climaxing--my exH was on anti-depressants and that was one of the side effects. 

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Registered: 08-09-2012
Thu, 02-07-2013 - 9:09pm

if it's become apparent that he has disconnected and that the sex wasn't good, tell him to roll off.  No point in you getting worn down by a marathoner who's not crossing the finish line any time soon.

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Registered: 02-11-2013
Mon, 02-11-2013 - 2:36pm

Men have more control, or are more conscious of their ejaculation than we "think" we know. If you have been with your partner a long time, I am confident that you are aware of his "capabilities". Honestly, my Man is REALLY good. I wouldn't want him to go longer than 30 on any given day. (I have to literally catch my breath.) If your man is struggling to last at a length of time that you are satisfied with, then there is a problem. It can range from medical/physiological complications or something more psychological. (DON'T GET SELF-CONSCIOUS! START COMMUNICATING.) What's most important is allowing him to maintain his masclinity. Don't "wish" it could last forever (verbally). You could be hurting yourself. He has feelings, too. Be more attentive in the areas beyond the actual intercourse. Is he a good kisser? Or does he enjoy some other activity more than the penetration? Build the sex up in other ways. That's what makes it seem like it IS lasting forever. You've started having sex with his mind well before the "zipper" comes down. I wish you all the best.