Is the start of an emotional affair?
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Is the start of an emotional affair?
| Wed, 10-05-2005 - 9:59pm |
What would you think if a guy started asking you out to dinner and treated you everytime? The catch is that you once had a "friends with benefits" thing which ended rather quickly. However, we were able to remain friends but not extremely close friends. Our FWB phase was also very low-key and we were never seen in public. This might sound like a good thing, b/c maybe he wants to give real dating a try...but another catch is he's also got a gf now. They met during the summer and have only been "official" for 2 months. We didn't hang out during the whole summer b/c i away on vacation and he was obviously hanging out with this girl. i dont know if he's told her that we've gone out to dinner, and he hardly mentions her to me. if we were just friends wouldn't he feel comfortable telling me about his love life? he also works full time and he's asked me a couple times to have dinner and drinks with him after he's done for the day. why would he want to do a one-on-one dinner on more than one occasion when we have other friends around town? and wouldn't you want to see your significant other after a full day of work? what gets me even more confused is that he can be a jerk sometimes but he's being supernice to me (hence asking me out to dinner, paying for me, and asking things about me like work, family, and anything else that's going on in my life) i don't know what to think of this and i definitely don't want to become some kind of home wrecker that breaks up a relationship. i'm thinking he's not too serious with his gf yet and since we haven't seen each other in awhile he might want to see what happens with us? any thoughts would be really appreciated b/c i'm one confused girl!

Sounds like he's using both of you for different purposes and only when it's convenient.
Do you want to be with a guy that doesn't want to "narrow it down" to one woman? If so, then carry on as normal because you'll never be the only one. If you don't want that life, let him go.