To stay or not to stay...

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Registered: 11-08-2004
To stay or not to stay...
Mon, 11-08-2004 - 2:16am
I am looking for some advice and would appreciate any given.

I met my boyfriend about 2 and a half years ago. He was in Michigan with some friends visiting their dad for the summer (They are from south Texas). I met him the day after he went up their and we have been "together" since a month after meeting. While in Mich he was accused of a felony crime and had to stay in the state until he went to trial. His friends went back down to Texas and he moved in with me and my family. (We are both 22 now but were 19 at the time.) It took several months for him to go to trial and he was eventually found not guilty at one trial and they dropped the other charge against him. He wanted to go back home and was going to try to drive all the way to Texas by himself. My mom convinced me to ride with him to Texas and said she would fly me back to Michigan when I was ready to come home. Right after I got to Texas I found out I was pregnant. He begged me to stay telling me how much he loved me, wanted to marry me, wanted to be with his baby, etc. I agreed to try it because I wanted my baby to grow up knowing her father. Flash foward to the present and I am still down here. He tries very hard to make me happy. He got a good job and bought me and our baby a house, he bought me a car and he will do anything for me. I know that he loves us very much and he worships our daughter who is now 13 months. I hate it here. I am not ready to get married although he wants to. I still want to go out and date other people and all of that good stuff. I am very lonely bc I have never had girl friends even back home and gets jealous of any guy that I talk to. I want to go back to Michigan very badly but I feel badly taking his baby that far away when I know what a good dad he is and how much he loves her. She adores him too. I have considered trying to get my own apartment down here and just not being together but I know that wouldnt work. Then I really would be all alone here. At least now I have him. The biggest problem is I don't want to be here. I just don't know what to do. Please let me know what you think.