A sticky situation!

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Registered: 05-02-2005
A sticky situation!
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Mon, 12-26-2005 - 1:21am

Hi all. I'm Maria, single, 22, and need a little advice about something.

You might think I'm crazy, but here's the deal - I was in the ER last week and I was referred to a doctor at the hospital for a follow-up a few days later. I went to my appointment, and lo and behold, my doctor was the most gorgeous man I've seen in a long time. He's also from the same background as I am and was pretty friendly. I'd say he's about 30. It's rare that I'm attracted to someone this much, I'm pretty selective. I have another follow-up appointment next month with him: do you think I should ask him out casually for a coffee? I know that this is a weird situation but I wonder "what if?", kwim? It's not like I'll have to see him as a patient after this, it's more of a short term thing. The thing I'm scared of is getting rejected because of some patient/doctor ethical code or something (or another reason).

TIA

Maria

 

 

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Registered: 06-13-2003
Mon, 12-26-2005 - 10:32am

Hey there,

That's so nice!! I remember thinking a doctor was cute that I saw once in a walk-in clinic in a town I was only stahying in for a couple of months. I can tell you what NOT to do! I went back the next day and left a christmas card for that guy - left it with the nurses and left my number on it - I can't remember what i said on the card but needless to say he never called me. Of course I have no idea why... As for asking your doc when you see him next - I don't think there is any real hard rule about doc/patients? but I'm not sure.. I would say it would be more pertinent if he was your family doctor and signing approvals for your work health or something.. in this case he's in the ER - and it would seem that his care over you will end after you next follow-up appointment? First point of call is make sure he's not married... 2nd point of call I think is to think of a kind of funny way to broach it - maybe say something like "thanks a lot for your help - if you weren't my doctor, I'd ask you for a coffee sometime".... and see wehat he says back? Just an idea... make it light and if it makes him uncomfortable... you can judge. Or you could give him your business card/something like that with your number and say it would be cool to grab a coffee sometime and just leave it to him. I have to say though, from my experience, 3 out of 4 guys I've approached have never called me... I think it's something to do with the hunter/hunted tradition built into their testosterone.

Good luck!

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Registered: 05-02-2005
Mon, 12-26-2005 - 10:50am

Thanks for your advice, I'm so glad you weren't judgemental. I'm sorry that doc never called you back, but now you know what to do - NEXT! :)

Oh, trust me, I *never* approach men because I'm just too shy, so asking him out is nerveracking like crazy for me, lol. I don't think I've ever asked a man out, I always leave it up to them.

The "if you weren't my doctor" line is pretty good, I never thought of that.

I have a few weeks to think about this but I'll definitely update you! ;)

Maria

 

 

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Registered: 04-15-2003
Mon, 12-26-2005 - 7:34pm
You've got nothing to lose - so go for it. Even if he says no you're a winner 'cause you went for it!
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Registered: 05-02-2005
Mon, 12-26-2005 - 10:33pm

Thanks so much, datedoyenne! You're absolutely right, I should go for it.

I will definitely update you after my next appointment ;)

Maria

 

 

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