Still feel rejected but he is a loser

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Registered: 05-18-2004
Still feel rejected but he is a loser
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Sun, 02-18-2007 - 10:09pm

I can relate to the previous post of cant get over the guy.. because I have been the same way with an xboyfriend.. he tells me he wants to be single and not be "owned" but yet when he needs to talk or a shoulder to cry on.. he calls. He wants friends with benefits.. and to see me when he wants..Calls me at all hours of the night.. and textes me dirty messages.

He has been doing things with his sons mother (they never married) off and on for about 4 months and she keeps going back to her ex. Yesterday they spent the whole day together and was texting me dirty stuff while he was with her...and then when he got home last night. And then today wanted to mess with me... I told him last night I went to dinner and movie and he seems to think I went on a date.. but he said he didnt care...

How can I feel so rejected by him, when I know deep down his a loser (when I dated him he had gone through a divorce a year prior and was giving him time to get on his feet--but his finances have gotten worse).. he hasnt paid taxes in 4 years, gotten garnishments on his bank account due to writing a bad check, says the banked screws him over because he had all the bad checks, lost his farm.

Back in late dec/early Jan we were together for 10 days.. then she calls and then he backed away.. and since then she has gone out with her ex.. and then last nigt..

How can I feel so rejected by such a loser--and him make me feel so bad.. I have good job, own a house and financically stable.

He tells me they are just drinking buddies and she just uses him, I told him like he uses me....

Any advice....

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Registered: 06-08-2006
Mon, 02-19-2007 - 8:42am

Is ther a particular reason that you have to stay in contact with him, such as having kids together? If not, then stop taking his calls and talking to him. Stop being his shoulder to cry on and he will be out of your life. Hard to make you feel bad about yourself if you have no contact with him.

YG