Still hasnt called

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Registered: 02-29-2004
Still hasnt called
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Thu, 03-04-2004 - 8:44pm
This is something i dont understand...i wrote earlier about my ex boyfriend, and hes still not calling me...i want to know if i should still think that maybe there is hope for us to get together....im scared...i dont want to loose him...im going to see him in 2 weeks at a concert..and i dont know how to act around him....please help me
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Registered: 03-28-2003
Thu, 03-04-2004 - 10:30pm
Although I don't know your story, my own opinion about ex's is that he or she is your ex for a reason. I don't hold much with getting back together after breaking up. When you meet someone but it doesn't work for both people, and one breaks it off...well, then that means it didn't work for one of you. The reason why doesn't matter as much as the FACT that it didn't work. Acceptance is the first step to healing and moving on. Good luck.
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Registered: 03-31-2003
Fri, 03-05-2004 - 1:00am
How can you "lose" him when you're already broken up? And why should he be calling you, if you're broken up? He isn't calling because the relationship ended, hon. Exes usually don't continue to call each other.

I didn't read your previous post, so I don't know what happened between you and I have no idea whether the relationship should remain dead. If the break up wasn't over abuse, or cheating, or substance abuse or some other irreparable situation, then only you know whether it would be worth another try.

If it was a good relationship, overall, except for an argument or something, then I say that whoever made the "mistake" should be the one to call and try to make amends. So, if he was the one who hurt you, then he should be the one to call... but only if he is truly sincere and ready to turn over a new leaf and be a committed partner. If you think he just wants to play with you some more, don't let him back in. If you "messed up" then you could call and apologize and ask to talk about reconciling. But you need to be sincere and sure, too.

If this was a painful relationship, then you should accept that it is best that it is over, and do things to help yourself move on.

Don't know the circumstances, so that's all I can offer. Good luck, whatever you decide.