straight man,gay bar?
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straight man,gay bar?
| Mon, 04-19-2004 - 1:08pm |
Help! I met an old boyfriend(from jr high!We are 40) He he lives in long beach,and says he likes to play pool,and its at a nieghborhood gay bar.says its unpretensious,no airs to put on or something like that.I just dont get a straight guy wanting to go hang out at a gay bar to shoot pool.Is he bi or what? says he isnt gay,but i so want to get intimate with him,but this is nagging my brain!!!! Any input on this would be awesome!!P.S. he was married for 8 yrs but wasnt happy,no kids eithier.
thanks ,shelly
thanks ,shelly

and if you want to be intimate.. Make sure you and he
uses protection! Ask a lot of questions......
I have heard even guys that say they are not gay or bi,
"enjoy" sex with the same sex. this can be risky with
your health. a lot of men won't admit to being gay...
and hang around gay men... for so call comfort.....
If he is so shy or uncomfortable as to not wanting to hang
around straight people... try to help him. But as a friend.
If this is making you feel uncomfortable......don't push a
relationship with him you may get hurt in more ways then one.
take care
I don't know, hon .. this sounds like this might be a DL situation (gay, on the "down low") If he goes to a gay bar regularly, I would strongly suspect that he is closet Gay or bi-curious.
In my experience, where's there's smoke, there's almost always fire.
If you do get him to go along with becoming intimate, please be safe! Sex with DL guys is one of the main ways women contract HIV.
It is true that some people can pass through situations and not be "scathed" by them. It is possible that things are exactly as he says. It is also possible that he is a "closet case."
He may not be gay and may have no gay inclinations at all. Then again, he may.
For my money, I'd be concerned about the company one keeps; there is usually a story there. If he is Gay/Bi, etc. he may practice safe sex and be "safe," but, everything in life is relative and I'd look hard at this situation.
The fact is, you have no way of knowing for certain, and that puts you at risk. So, how do you mitigate that risk?
1. Do not pursue this attraction.
2. Pursue it slowly, ask for an HIV test before having an intimate relations.
3. Always use protection.
4. Find out more about him and why he likes the place.
etc., etc., etc.
DO NOT kid yourself; this might be a catastrophic and irreversible mistake, if you do not get all of the information and protection you need before becoming intimate.
Just a thought.
dh
Hi Shelly
It is a little strange but so is much of life.