A strange situation
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A strange situation
| Sat, 03-13-2004 - 12:26pm |
I'm new here and a big part of me would like to start dating again. Got separated before my DS was born and haven't dated anyone since my XH. DS is already three. It's been a long time. A friend of mine told me last night that she and her H have amicably agreed to divorce. It's been coming for over a year. They just grew apart. There was no abuse, fighting, or anything. they just agreed to move on. This is where I get to the confusing part... She offered to set me up with her XH! I told her that was a little too bizarre for me. She goes into her pitch: Well he's a great guy, he's the right age, he's got his sh** together, they live very comfortably, she's only getting $xyz in child support, he'd treat me like a princess, he's great with kids, he loves curvy women (I'm about 3-4 sizes bigger than she-skinny broad) and she likes me and knows my aspirations and values so she would be comfortable about my being in her kids' lives. She says, "I do want him to be happy and you're a terrific person!" HOLY CRAP!!! What the heck was all that? Here's where it gets even more bizarre. I'm tempted. I haven't been out with a man since my XH and I decided to try to "fix" our marriage. He decided to court me and win me back, which didn't even last a year. That was Dec 1999. You do the math. My priorities are very focused. Finish school, start working in my field, then start saving to buy a house where I can root my kids.
Some of my girlfriends tell me to have a fling or a one nighter. I just can't do that. I know they can, but I'm just not built that way. I've slways been something of a square. *Sigh* Guess we'll just have to see what happens.
Some of my girlfriends tell me to have a fling or a one nighter. I just can't do that. I know they can, but I'm just not built that way. I've slways been something of a square. *Sigh* Guess we'll just have to see what happens.

What is she up to? I don't know. Maybe she's into threesomes. Ever read the personal ads? There are plenty of women looking for a female to share with their husbands to give them some fun. Don't believe me? Read the ads.
Whatever it is, I'd stay away from it. Until they are really done with each other.
If you're ready to look for a man again, what's holding you back?
I say that even if/when they get divorced, you should think long and hard before getting involved with your friend's ex-husband, and do it only if you are willing to give up your friendship b/c it will likely end. I have no idea what she is thinking trying to set you up with her husband (!), but if you were to take her up on it, now or even after the divorce, I bet she'd resent it.
Years ago a friend set me up with her ex-boyfriend, and our friendship was never the same after that. I dated the guy for 3 months, and lost a friend. Totally not worth it!