Strangest darn thing.......
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| Thu, 08-17-2006 - 1:09pm |
So I have a question here. I meet this guy I kinda like, and would like to get to know better. I slip him a card with my number in it, and yesterday he inquires about my work, and I say i'm off. He says the same. He says, 'Maybe i'll see you or talk with you later'. Well I hear from him like an hour later this is at 8. He asks about us getting together, I say sure. Well, he says, 'Let me get cleaned up, i'll call you back in a half hour.' Well like 9:15 I get a call from a 'UNKNOWN' number on my phone, and he explains he's at the local hospital a friend isn't doing too good. I of course inquire if everything is alright, he says, 'yes, but he's not going to get into it'. Anyway he tells me, 'If I would like to he would still get together tonight he would like to, and if not the next time he'll be available is the 25th. Some 4 girls he knows are throwing a get together and afterwards they do something afterwards. He says it'll be a good opportunity to get to know the people he knows." I say, "Sure, you know handle your business, and later if you like you can give me a call." So, he says, "I'll probably call you back like in a half hour or something, it's past my bedtime I normally have to get up at 5am for work." We say alright, and get off the phone. Of course I head to bed, and wake up this morning, no message on my phone.
This was the strangest thing. I was the one who provided my phone number, however he contacted me, then something just happened? Am I the only one this is bizarre to? Let me know your thoughts....

Something just doesn't sound quite right. I guess you should give him the benefit of the doubt (cautiously!) but when he said "I'm not going to get into it right now" sounds a bit defensive. Did you even ASK him to 'get into it'? No. You just asked if he's alright.
I also think that you may have been (*may* have been) a backup plan for him. Otherwise, why didn't he make definite plans with you the first time he spoke with you? It was all this "maybe we'll get together, maybe I'll call, blah blah blah".
I say see if he calls for the 25th, but don't hold your breath.
I just had another thought - how did you meet this guy? Are you SURE he's single and available? It almost sounds like he could have been saying "I'll try to see you later if my girlfriend isn't around" type of thing.
Just a thought. I could be completely off base.
First of all, you gave him your card. He didn't ask you for your number. Means he probably wasn't thinking that much about you in the first place (sorry). But then you made a play for him, and he felt compelled to play along. No doubt he was flattered by the attention. And maybe he even thought seriously about getting together with you. But he flaked out on you twice. First he was too dirty, and then his buddy was in the hospital... but he claimed he STILL wanted to go out with you later that night. And then he called for the THIRD TIME at 9:30 p.m. on a work night. Well, shame on you for being too sleepy and passing THAT opportunity up. Now you're just going to have to get on his waiting list... because he's all "booked" til the 25th.
Just move on. He sounds like a waste of energy.
Your dating methodology may need a little work. How much did you know about this guy before you "slipped him your number". Do you know whether he is single and available? Do you know whether he wants a relationship? A friendship? A booty call?
By slipping the man your number what you were telling him was that if he dialed that number you would answer the phone and talk to him, which is exactly what happened. This man knows he can talk to you over the phone, I would definitely expect more calls from him. But don't expect him to be the kind of person to turn into what you want him to be. I would ask a lot more questions of this guy before agreeing to a date, a party or a hang out.