Stuck between a rock and a hard place
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| Wed, 07-07-2004 - 9:49am |
My second scenario is my ex. We went out for 4 years and broke up 4 years ago. There was no real reason for our break up, it just happened after we started fighting a lot and lost respect for each other and took each other for granted. He still loves me very much and would love to re-visit our relationship and see where it takes us. I am reluctant as I still remember how difficult the last year with him was for me, but I am also inquisitive to find out what he is like now and now that we are both older if things have changed.
He has asked me to visit him for a weekend (he lives up country temporarily) and part of me is keen to go, but another part is very wary of falling into the same trap. And to top it all, I wish I knew where my relationship with the younger guy is going.
Should I visit my ex?

To be fair though, you will want to talk to this guy you're dating first. You should probably find out if he wants to become more serious. If not, and you're still interested in giving your ex a go, then maybe it's time to move on from him. This guy may be hurt if you decide to just go for a night to your ex's without ending things with him first. Do you agree? I know I would be.
Either way, you need to have a long hard look at the relationship you may be wondering about getting back into. Chances are that YOU have changed and HE has not. Remembering what the bad times were like, and how you say you lost respect for each other, how do you ensure that doesn't happen again? You would be walking into it still hurt from the previous relationship. If he's serious, perhaps he would agree to seeing a therapist with you at the beginning to work out some of the things that did happen?
Good luck and I hope it works out!
Alison