Suggestions?

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-23-2003
Suggestions?
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Tue, 04-03-2007 - 2:43pm

I would like to have some advice/suggestions from everyone, please!

So me and my boyfriend have been going out almost 2 months, these last couple of months have been INCREDIABLE!!!

We've gone out to eat ALOT, we've taken turns paying...In my opinion I'm not about the guy paying all the time. He was gone over the weekend (returned sunday afternoon) he wanted me to come up Sunday so I did, as soon as I got there we were both hungry we decided to have some pizza, I bought he thanked me..blah blah blah...no big deal, well Monday afternoon we went out to lunch and I bought again. My reasoning for this was because when we were together last weekend, we celebrated my b-day, he bought me an mp3 player, took me out to dinner, and made me my favorite kind of cake (cup cakes actually because some friends of ours bought me a cake the night before) and decorated them (how SWEET). So I felt that he'd already spent enough money on me it was my turn. He was frustrated that I bought lunch for us. We talked about it last nigth, he wouldn't come out and say what it was that frustrated him but I knew it was because I'd bought lunch. He told me that he isn't use to this, I said I understand but I said I like to treat you I don't expect you to buy everytime we go out to eat.

Is there any suggestions on a a system or something that I can say to him about when we do go out and eat?

Thanks

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-28-2006
In reply to: radelle1981
Tue, 04-03-2007 - 3:15pm
If he wants to treat you, let him. I don't see what the big deal is. Let him be a guy and treat you whenever he wants. I don't see where you need a system, that doesn't make any sense.
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-23-2003
In reply to: radelle1981
Tue, 04-03-2007 - 3:18pm
yea a system does sound stupid...I just I like to treat him every once in awhile.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-28-2006
In reply to: radelle1981
Tue, 04-03-2007 - 3:21pm

But if he's your guy, and he WANTS to treat you without feeling it's an obligation, then just let him do it. He wants to feel like the man in the relationship, just let him.

Do you know how many women out here are BUYING their man's company just to have a relationship and get out of the house?

You can suggest paying but if he says no, then no it is and leave it at that.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-04-2003
In reply to: radelle1981
Tue, 04-03-2007 - 5:20pm
He wants to pay and I think that's a good sign.


Carrie

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-30-2006
In reply to: radelle1981
Tue, 04-03-2007 - 9:57pm
I agree with ivil_mami25, offer to pay and see what he says.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-15-2003
In reply to: radelle1981
Fri, 04-06-2007 - 1:46pm

Why not do something like surprising him with tickets to a concert you'd both enjoy? Cook him a home cooked meal.

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